playing advice giver!
happy six years to my blog!!!! yaaaay! sorry for the delayed post! to celebrate, a few posts back i asked you to post anything you might've needed advice for. i am sorry i couldn't reply to all, some of your problems i really didn't know what advice i could give. but some, i tried my best to give so-called words of wisdom. :p they're divided into sections: yourself, work and school, and love. :) enjoy! hahaa!
about: true friends?
what would you do if you thought you've found your true friends then all of a sudden they left you and treat you like they never knew you?
dear, i think you know the answer to your own question. :) gosh, its a terrible feeling to realize that. :( you should do nothing, i mean to them, don't waste your time and energy on that anymore.. on the brighter side, at least you know which friends are real and which friends are fair-weathered. :)
about: finding yourself.
how to find yourself? any advices?
Hi Bianca, i hope you could give advice or thoughts on how to deal with quarter life crisis. Sometimes, it just attack you on realizations about career, achievements, relationships, faith and others. I think you also experienced that, how did you handle it?
maybe you can give an advice on.. how someone can find his/her passion in life? i'm only 20 and will graduate in a year.. but i really don't know what exactly to do after school! is this the quarter life crisis they say?
oh my!! a question i need help in answering too!! how old are you guys? :) lots of people call this the "quarter life crisis" nga. til now, i still do not know if it does exist but i just try to do my best every single day! love work and work hard, spend quality time with family and friends, reward yourself when you deserve it, cry it out when you need to, enjoy "me" time!! just do know that YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT ALONE! a lot of people i know, even much older than us, are still trying to "find themselves". i think its normal. :p don't pressure yourselves. :)
about: being gay.
i think i said..
what if (kunwari hypothetical pero hindi naman talaga) so what if... ur gay. i mean me. i'm gay. and i shouldn't be. right? like, i can't be gay. no. do i sound like i need an advice? is this like an "advice-wanting" question? anyway, thanks. i guess.
aaaaaaw.. hi there. :) why can't you be gay? along with many, many others, allow me to tell you this: there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay or realizing you are gay! it might be that you're concerned about what your family or friends might say. for that, i suggest you ask another gay friend how they did it. from the stories i've heard, the feeling of being free and out there will give you happiness like no other. good luck! and be fabulous! :)
about: being materialistic.
maybe the advice i need is about being materialistic.. i've read & heard in the tv that u're soooo kuripot.. how do you manage it? as n i wanna get rid of being materialistic.. i got no savings & just bought stuffs i want..
haha! nakakahiya naman, yes i have admitted to being "kuripot" but hearing it from somebody else, i'm suddenly shy! okay. here goes. i'm not a big spender. but i do spend. what i am is, i'm a big saver. ever since i was a kid, ganun na ako. saving money is very important. its up to you how much of your allowance or salary you wanna save, what's important is that you discipline yourself to do it. prioritize spending on things you need. don't be too kuripot though. you deserve to reward yourself after doing something successfully or after getting through something major! good luck! :)
about: traveling locally.
where do you recommend my next trip be? locally i mean.. me and my friends are planning to go to PAGUDPUD ILOCOS on September for my BDay... i've heard its a great place... have you been there?
ooh! i have been to pagudpod but only once, and for work! so i didn't get to see it much. of all the local cities i have been to though, i highly, highly recommend ilocos, baguio, tagaytay, batangas, cebu, boracay, davao.. and i recommend not only doing the touristy things but also asking local friends to take you around so you see the place through their eyes! my dream local destinations also include batanes and palawan.
dear superbianca, i missed the way i write nung Friendster days pa. i miss myself back then. and i feel na i was better those days. but i know hindi ganun kadaling bumalik sa past. what can i do? thank you in advance. much love.
get back to writing! :) yessss, do it! whether it be a blog post, simple doodles, a poem, a diary entry.. the best way to get back into shape when writing is to keep writing. when i don't get to blog for a long time, i also feel like nothing i write seems witty or smart or interesting enough. but just keep writing til you get back in the groove. good luck! :)
i am a Muslim-Maranao from down south and i know how we've been depicted by the media, by people, by the world, generally. but just because we embrace a diverse belief doesn't make us any different from everyone else. just like you, we could only wish for PEACE to reign forever oh, seems like this comment is misplaced. hehe. but really, how do you deal with people who stereotype?
ahh, stereotyping. yes it does bother me too, but whether on a large or small scale, we have to admit that all of us do it, sometimes not on purpose din naman. i think stereotyping becomes bad and unhealthy when it is out of closed-mindedness, like those people not willing to learn. just try to block it out when you hear things said about you, do your thing and show everyone what you got, and you yourself, set an example to keep an open mind. :) you seem like such a strong girl, and for posting this pa lang, i'm proud of you! :)
about: moving abroad.
celine :) said..
bianca! ung buong pamilya ko, nasa UK, as in parents and 3 siblings. they want me to stay there as well after graduation, gusto ko din para makasama ko sla, pero a big part of me, ayoko talaga, i just don't want to stay there for good, ayoko din iwan tita ko na nagpalaki samin. pwede naman natin i-offer ung service natin sa kapwa filipinos kesa sa iba. dba? :) wahh. anong gagawin ko?
i'm sure so many other young pinoys are dealing with your dilemma as well.. aaw.. i'm sure they want you to join them because they miss you and they want na kumpleto ang pamilya. i am in no position to tell you what to do, and cheesy as this may sound, i say follow your heart. the upside of being in the uk is being reunited with your family, and there could also be so many opportunities for you in terms of work there. the upside of staying here is being in your comfort zone and going for what you are passionate about here. you could also try it out there for a year, then if it doesn't work, come back home? know that you are blessed to have two great opportunities, whatever it is you choose. :)
about: staying positive.
My question is, "How do you remain positive despite of all the negativism especially in your line of work?".
hay, negativity. so tough no? i think in any line of work, because of the way society works, there will be negativity talaga. just try as much as possible to, as they say, not sweat the small stuff. i am generally a really positive person but that doesn't mean i never get sad or upset. everyone gets sad or upset! haha! i think its in the little things. and try to smile a lot. and try to make others feed off your positivity. :)
i don't feel content with anything. ewan ko kung bat gnun. i don't like my work, and i don't like my lifestyle. palagay mo ba ako ang may problem?
sounds to me like you need a vacation. or at least some alone time to think about things and enjoy the simple things in life! do not worry, you are not alone, many people go through what you are going through, i have too.. maybe its time to step back, breathe, listen to yourself think, reassess what you want right now in life. :)
-xuper p.- said..
i really have a big acne problem for 3-4 yrs... and it really affects my confidence. i would walk head down and talk to people without looking in their eyes. i also would make excuses for our get together with my high school buddies just to escape from them seeing my face.. i still believe that my face will be back to normal again but please help me, what will i do to gain confidence even i have this face?
aaw xuper p!!!! :(( i feel for you! when i went through an acne problem stage too, that's exactly how i felt! and again, do not worry cause everyone goes through that! i am no doctor to be able to prescribe an anti acne cream for you, but do consult a derma because they would know best how to help you! but for now, i can say this, the more you lack confidence in yourself, the more people will notice flaws. really! but if you handle yourself with confidence and with a go-getter attitude, others will see that in you, and not the flaws you are trying to hide! smile and keep your chin up. :)
ABOUT SCHOOL AND WORK.
about: school stress.
When you were in college, did you ever have a hard time coping up with academic stress? Like feeling that you'll never succeed because of your grades, etc.. If so, how did you deal with it? :)
yessss!! of course!! oh my. i remember the stress like it was only yesterday! haha! school is tough. it really is. but believe me, those days that you feel like you have sooo many readings, papers to do, projects to complete, na feeling mo super imposible? posible. super posible! i dunno about you pero ako grabe yung adrenaline when working on so many things for school at the same time, kasi grabe din yung fulfillment after. the key is time management. :)
hi ate biancs... request lang sana ako na magpost ka din ng blog about your style of hosting...ü and also i wanna ask some advice on how to be a good host like you...ü
you are so sweet, thank you superkate! i actually really never (or if ever, once in a bluemoon lang talaga) blog about my work.. i feel my blog is my outlet to show who i am as a person, not just who i am at work, i post about what i like to do, what my family and friends are like, random rants and thoughts. :) however, because you asked, i will give you a very important tip from a good friend who also happens to be my manager, boy abunda. he simply said, "to be interesting, you have to be interested." keep that in mind, not just with hosting, but with life in general! :)
about: quitting the call center.
sui generis said..
I'm 26 yrs old and I just resigned from being a call center agent for almost 4 years because I want to pursue a career in writing, kasi yun naman yung tinapos ko. Gusto ko talagang maging writer, specifically TV program writer, but then, kadalasan ang hinahanap eh yung may experience.
i started in tv production as a brainstormer because i also wanted to become a writer! i am so happy you want to pursue your passion in life, not a lot are as brave as you, so my suggestion is this. take classes or seminars. look it up online. one day or one week on film or production, classes by ricky lee, even abs workshops. its when you join these groups that you meet people and opportunities open! a lot go through the p.a, brainstormer, researcher route before actually becoming a writer. that's usually how everyone works their way up. good luck and go for it! :)
about: job after college.
I'm in college studying European Languages majoring in French, German and Italian. I'm in my senior year and I still don't have any idea on what to do after graduation. I seriously want something I can use my abilities and talents like translation or interpretation. I just wanna ask what possible careers are there for me.
i totally love your course! why not try passing your resume to unicef philippines, or any other international relations org? just look up the addresses and contact people online and go for it! i suggest unicef because i have a friend named gina, it was just her dream to work there, she passed a resume, went on with her life, three years after they actually had an opening and she got the job! inspiring right? :) just keep passing your resumes and with your zest and energy for sure you will get your dream job soon! :)
about: being nbsb.
i am so 'sheltered'. i'm 20 and nbsb. no boyfriend since birth! kahit isang guy wala akong kaclose. may mga friends pero casual friends lang wala talagang closeness. what should i do? tnx.
there is nothing wrong with being nbsb. and you're only 20! :) take your time, enjoy being single, and enjoy friends! i do think though that you should go out of your way to mingle more, with both girls and boys. i was lucky i went to co-ed schools all the way, so it was no problem finding guy friends. just start hanging out with big groups then eventually from there you will come out of your shell and not be shy to get to know people more. you can do it! :)
about: a friend not over the ex.
is it right for you to feel disappointed? if all along, you found out that you're friend is still hooked with her ex?? nakakainis lang kasi, its almost a year, but the things that remind him are still with her.. minsan, nakakasawa na lang talaga mag-advice, pero no choice din naman, dahil kaibigan nga ako eh, di ba?
i have been both in your place and in the place of your friend! its really hard dealing with break ups, and moving on is usually the most terrible part. its great of you to be such a good friend giving advice non stop, and you know what, please don't get tired of doing it. your friend just needs her support system, and that is you. she's vulnerable and probably hard headed nga, but when she does come to realize that she should move on, she will oh-so-thank you for it and your bond as friends will be much stronger too. :)
about: fighting for love.
what would you do if your heart has finally decided to love but the one your heart loves has already decided to let you go and has found another heart to love? would you still fight for it?
Sometimes my mind is telling me to give up already on the relationship I am in now. But my heart keeps on telling me to hold on. In times like this that your mind and heart do not agree with each other. Which one do you think is the best to follow? Mind or heart?
oooooouch.. aaw!! :(( what a situation. hayayay. you both are in a different but sort of similar situation. allow me to share what i've learned about fighting for love. YOU are the only person that can decide if you want to fight for it or not. you will feel it. you will!! if you wake up one day and you feel you still want to fight for it. do it, go. give it all you got. one day if you wake up and you feel, hey, its gone, you're fine, and you don't want to fight for it. then. you. will. know. :) iba kapag nasabi mo na talaga sa sarili mo na you gave it your all and have no regrets. when you feel that peace inside, then you know, you're super gonna be fine. :)
about: being friends with your ex's family.
i was just wondering if it's really possible to be friends with your ex's family and at the same time, moving on with your life. needless to say, i am going through the same dilemma. i am hoping someone can finally give the light without judging me that i have hidden motives by being still in contact with the family.
you actually already answered your own question! yes it is possible! cliche but just so true, time heals all wounds. you are right, i am still very, very close to the family of my ex! but i also have to tell you that that didn't happen right away. in any break up, the distance and the time apart after is still very important. after some time without communication, when all is well, around a year or so in my case, when i did finally get in touch with them again, it was back to normal! its just great when it does happen. :)
about: after the break up.
Mr. Nice Guy said..
What do you think are the good things to do for oneself after going through a failed relationship?
travel!!!!!! without a doubt, travel! it doesn't have to be far, it just has to be somewhere where you can just be with yourself, or good friends, or family. you have to love yourself, spoil yourself, pamper yourself! for the first time after such a long time, this is when you don't have to worry about someone else, all you have to please is yourself! it does take time to adjust, but you will be fine and great in no time! you gotta believe it for it to happen too! :)
about: is it just physical?
i'm with a guy right now and he always tells me he finds me attractive. he usually compliments me physically, but other than that, i don't feel that he's truly into me because of what i am as a person. if it's simply based on the outside, then i don't think it could sustain what we have. plus we have little things in common. you think it would work?
oh my, that is hard.. hay. of course initial attraction is always physically first, but more than that, i think a meaningful relationship is when you share views, goals, values. you don't have to be agreeing on everything, but you are right, you both have to love each other because of who you are as people.. aaw.. sorry if i wasn't able to help, but something this major only you can decide. give it a chance, work on the relationship, and take your time to think more about it. :)
about: real love.
I would like to hear your own opinion about real love? how would you know if its real love? How can you make a relationship last? thank you.
marge! i would like to know the answer to this too! haha! allow me to open up.. i had three long term relationships, before this current relationship i am in now, and i would also like to know the "secrets" to a lasting relationship, if there are any! i'd like to believe that all of us in relationships, are in it, because we are all hoping that this will be "it". good luck to us all! :p anyone reading this, feel free to post your advice for us! haha!
about: relationship turning sour.
how do you handle a relationship that's turning sour?
:(( haaaaaay. love naman talaga, o, bakit ka ganyan?? hay. okay. hmm.. for some of my friends, time apart really works. you don't necessarily have to break up yet, more like, just have more time to yourselves. much like the movie "one more chance", where the couple just had to re-figure-out who they were as persons, because they sort of lost themselves in the relationship. maybe that might work for you. hang in there! pray about it!
thank you soooooo much to everyone who reads my blog!!!! :)) many, many more years to come i hope!! and if you are bloggers yourselves, keep on posting!! :))