19 April 2008

dear broken heart..


this post is dedicated to all those going through difficult matters of the heart!

”diary of a broken heart”, this was my planned title for a diary-of-sorts that i wanted to write when i was brokenhearted once. i thought to myself, what if isulat ko lahat ng nararamdaman ko araw araw sa loob ng isang buong taon, then i’d be able to read it when i am healed, and see my journey from a new point of view, from denial to anger to bitterness to hope to healing (or whatever jumbled order you’ve experienced in your own love life) and maybe, it might be able to help future broken hearts out there.

but, i never got to writing it.

siguro dahil sa sobrang sakit, kapag naiisip kong magsulat, nananalo na lang yung kagustuhan kong magmukmok sa isang tabi. imbis na mag-effort pa ako na mag-isip at magpagod, ginusto ko na lang na wala na lang akong intindihin. hanggang sa lumipas ang mga linggo, mga buwan, i went through all kinds of emotions (na slightly nakakabaliw talaga yung iba ha!), until one day, i was okay.

having said all that, and having heard some of the most saddening break-up stories the past weeks, allow me to try to reconstruct a few of the things i’ve learned in life, and love, that might help that broken heart of yours or of someone you know.

1. on advice.

kapag brokenhearted ka.. no advice said to you will make you feel better. none. as in. wala. kahit ano, walang effect. kapag brokenhearted ka, the only thing that you think will make you feel better is if the one you love will say they love you too. but they won’t. (in some cases, they won’t ever, but in some, they won’t just for this point in time.) hugs will comfort you, concerned texts will make you smile, but no amount of advice will make you feel better.. unless! unless you decide to let it make you feel better. don’t be pressured though to follow everyone’s advice. kanya-kanya lang yan. of the one hundred cliché lines thrown at you at an attempt to make you feel better, most will not make you feel better (in fact, some will make you feel worse), but there will be a few major lines (not necessarily given by those closest to you, mind you) that will speak to you and touch your heart and soothe your soul. those pieces of advice, you hold on to.

2. on prayer.

a broken heart will wake up some days so unbelievably hopeless and wanting to just stay in bed all day. some will even go all out in saying they want to die (but of course you don’t really want to die, right?) a broken heart will wake up some days feeling somewhat rested and peaceful, but with a slight fear that they might encounter something that day that will bring back all the pain. whatever mood the broken heart wakes up in, one thing remains. it’s a broken heart. and this may sound cheesy or false to some, but there is only one thing that can heal all things broken. our LoRd and personal savior, JeSus ChRisT. when your heart is peaceful, give thanks. when your heart is troubled, still give thanks and ask for deliverance. when your heart is shattered into a million pieces, still give thanks, and ask that you may learn whatever life lesson it is that He wants you to learn. in both high and low, give thanks, because it is one of the surest things in life that GoD only works for the good of those who love Him.

3. on moving on.

don’t be pressured! for some it takes weeks. for some, months. for some, years! of course no one likes the pain that a broken heart brings. (its pain like no other! araaay talaga grabe!) but, you have to go through it. there is no short cut, there is no other way. go through it. go and let it out. cry before you sleep, cry when you wake up, cry in the bathroom, cry to your friends. lock yourself in the room, stay in bed all day, don’t talk to anyone for hours, make senti all you want. do it all. don’t let anybody stop you. (but don’t let it get in the way of school or work or the things you have to do either! okay? okay.) feel all those yucky, disgusting, heart-shattering feelings, curl it all up into this unbelievably sad ball, and one day, when you are ready, throw it out the window. it will happen for you. i know you feel it won’t, that the day you will be okay will never come, but it will. have faith, it will.

let me stop at this third point and end by saying that i’ve felt all those feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness that you might be feeling right now. and, honestly, so have thousands, and millions of other people around you. it sucks. it really does. but hey. nobody said that it would be easy, but nobody said that you have to do it alone.

all this i share with pure sincerity from the bottom of my happy heart, to your soon-to-be happy heart! :)

171 comments:

janie wanie said...

very will written.

i agree with the part cry all you want, because really, there's no other way.

so when you start moving on, you are surely going to the path of healing.

one of my favorite words, heal.

prince_paranoia said...

"when your heart is peaceful giv thanks, when your heart is troubled still give thanks"

--> i couldn't agree more. sometimes the seemingly undying pain teaches us the most valuable lessons in life and if it doesn't seem to go away, it only means that you haven't gotten the lesson yet.

^_^

JB LEE said...

hard to believe a beautiful and accomplished girl (lets admit it)like you feels worthless and hopeless. i mean, it is said, that girls and especially the attractive ones can always have the life they want..

Anonymous said...

i've experienced this, bianca! i secretly cried for a man for two years. and when i thought that i've already moved on, he unexpectedly courted me... when in fact i only prayed to God na "Okay lang Po kahit hindi maging kami basta Po i want him to be my friend for the rest of my life." God gave me more than what I prayed for! Now, we're still happy with God in the center of our (love) life! Pero siyempre I never told him na I had a secret crush on him! Hehehe! :D

c0lleen said...

aww bianca! thanks, this is a really nice entry... :)

Anonymous said...

Hmmm, I wonder if you're still single? Or in a relationship na? Either way, stay happy! :)

m a r g e said...

2nd to the last paragraph is sooo true. i dont know what else to say.

judskie said...

it's been two years and i must admit that i'm still moving on. i cant help but reminisce.. it never occurred to me that our relationship would end in just "a blink of an eye". :(

well, i'm still very thankful because God has given me the chance to spend for years of my life with an amazing person. We were only 16 then..

bianca, i love reading all your posts. i learn a lot from them. thank you for sharing your thoughts.. God bless you! :p

kaRen_myxmatch said...

intial reaction: OMG! (haha you know it girl 'stay kilig?'lol)basta OMG kaagad ang nasbi ko wehehe


i always give advice to my friends na broken hearted..kahit na im not in the position and experienced to do so... its weird na they always tell me mas kumakampi ako sa other side...that's it. when you're broken hearted you only listen to what your heart wants to hear and to feel..right?

hmmm.stay kilig to your happy HEART! hehe

ivy rose said...

ms b,
i believe uve gone thru dat and ur healed already..wow! kkbilib k tlga ! kc lam m b,i re read ur ktxts ung mga nkapost s forum m? the year 2006 iread it all and pinagmsdan mbuti hw u look..u did manage to smile and look happyand did ur job well(hosting of course) and frm that year onwards..till your last ktxt..wow..just by reading it and looking at ur mms pics.i can say n ngmature k!nkamove on k!!at pati s pgppdala ng ktxt ngng iba n..ur more closer to HIM,kso i miss that part in ur ktxt n "today i learned..." or "alm nyo b na..."
well yon lng ,i jst want u to know na UR DOING GREATTT !!!! MS. B...

ivy-

Anonymous said...

wow!
nice entry, it made me remember the days i was moving on with my first boyfriend he lied to me when he said he needs the girl. but after a few days i found out that nkfixed marriage pla sya and that he really loves me. and all i/we need to do is to let go and move on.
thanks for the entry.

katedadz said...

whatta post! hehe.

online naman ako buong araw pero di ko napansing you posted new pala. :)

oh well, haha. OMG talaga.

honestly, i really can't relate. wala pa akong lovelife. soon, i'll read this again pag meron na.

kilig naman sa HAPPY HEART! :)

superdhebz said...

Wow. Thanks Ate Bianca for the msg. =) sana po maka-move on na ako. hehehe! God bless.

Anonymous said...

congrats for your healed and happy heart, bianca!
I'm just wondering...healed ba talaga because you've moved on...or healed na because ung nagbreak ng heart mo, bumalik na? Ibig sabihin pag hindi ba cya bumalik, broken hearted ka pa rin?
wala lang...curios lang...

Kim said...

awww..thank you for posting this!:)

i was actually crying while reading your post.

but thank you.
really.

angel said...

very inspiring entry...'ve watched u during pbb and followed ur story throughout..ur such a strong..wonderfull person..u deserve everything u have now..God loves you, and He will always listen to the desire of your heart..

desiree said...

As the line goes in one of the songs of the Beatles;

And when the brokenhearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer let it be

Bianca, this is your most beautiful entry so far....

ca said...

wow. the entry i've been waiting for since i got broken-hearted almost 4 months ago. isn't it funny to think that the only people who can understand what you're going through are those who went through the same pain & sadness?? yeah, NOTHING, as in NOTHING will ever make you feel better when you are in EXTREME pain and sadness. It's been months ago but everything is so fresh that it seems to happen just yesterday. Ayayay!! But you know what gives me hope? The message from your spiritual friend you posted in your feb 2007 entry. That I'll make it through because God will sustain me. and of course, your possible get together with ahem. hehe. sana, sana talaga. :) thank you for this entry, it started my day with a smile. :)

mhei... said...

whowh??!basta whowh na lang nasabi ko..hehehehe=) very inspiring,kelangan na natin mag move on,GoD knows who's best man for us!.let's be pure to GoD muna..

..tRuE LoVe wAiTz..
-stay happy ate biancs,GoD Bless you olweiz!=)

irish said...

hello!

what an entry! two hand up biancs! a heart or a soul who experienced something is the best one to share a piece of advise, and that's you bianca!

i like the "give thanks" lines you posted. whether we up or down, peaceful or troubled, happy or sad, we just have to give Him thanks. there's always a purpose and lesson in every situation we've gone through that we have to picked up and carry on with our journey. other one is on advise. let me say that somewhat i am blessed to have friends who trust me to their stories, shempre iba iba yan. madalas shempre kapag low moments. sabi ko nga, papel ko nalang atang makinig at magpayo. :) naisip ko lang tuloy,
they do really appreciate it? but then, what a feeling to be trusted on that situations of their life. diba? but you, you have a different story. iba ka biancs. you keep on inspiring people on different aspects. but most specially, you lift our spirits. you're really someone heaven sent. (are you from here?:) ) hehe..

good day biancs and keep the faith.

irish_joy

just_so_you_know said...

wow! you're post made me feel better! :)

i've been through such pain a few months ago, but now i know im so sure that i've already moved on.

it's so true that "TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS"


we'll all wait together to what's gonna happen to your soon-to-be happy heart.

.acciemaj. said...

"And every tear that had to fall from my eyes,
Everyday I wondered how I'd get through the night,
Every change, life has thrown me,
I'm thankful, for every break in my heart,
I'm grateful, for every scar,
Some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were lessons learned."
--Lessons Learned, Carrie Underwood

Anonymous said...

only God can heal a broken heart. He knows. He cares. after all, he's the one who created "feelings". He feels for us. He feels the pain too. and in His right time, he will make all things beautiful for us.

Glad to hear you're healed now.

Anonymous said...

you're brilliant!

joanne said...

Ciao Ate Bianca! I was shocked when I see a new entry on your blogsite...I thought it would take a long time again before you post again on your blogsite. Anyway, nice post Ate Biancs!!!

marilou said...

nice post..

it really moved me. :)

Thanx :)

freyti said...

tama ka talaga!kahit sino pa mag advice sayo will not make you feel better!thats what im always saying to my friends pag naghihingi ng payo!(kahit wala naman me experience sa mga rel.)syempre,payo2x ako sa una pero sa huli, sinasabi kong "ikaw pa rin makakapagdecide abwt jan" anywei,
LOVELIFE is a matter of CHOICE!not just with the lovelife,its all about LIFE!hehe...hala2x..

Anonymous said...

Hi Bianca, Me again.. (venice's aussie friend lol)

i couldnt agree more Bianca. being heartbroken can wreck you, if you let it.

twice na ako na heartbroken, pero kung hindi ko napagdaanan yun, wala rin akong mga lessons learned.

my other way of letting go of my pain was to Blog it out... hehe

Very well written, mate!

Anonymous said...

a really inspiring and moving entry. thank you for sharing your thoughts to us bianca. i am in the process of healing my heart and this entry gave me hope. in His time, i know and i believe that i will find the right guy for me. i hope you've found the one for you.

AiDiSan said...

Hi Bianca,

I just hope all brokenhearted people will be able to read this post. Ganyan talaga ang life, you have to experience happiness, pains and all sorts of emotions, to make you a complete person and learn how to appreciate life even more.

Stay Optimistic and write more post and continue to share 'coz a lot of people are learning from you.

God Bless!!!

celine said...

wow! galing! i really admire you. well, ko pa yan nararanasan. pero i have friends who go through it. i will let them read this. wow! you're really great!

cathyne said...

i totally agree with you on this...no amount of advices can heal your broken heart...and saying thank you is very important...i like your post.

Anonymous said...

nice post!
love it!
:D

Anonymous said...

keep sharing your thoughts, they are inspiring

lilith said...

Wow...is April the new "Break-up Month?" ;'(

Kris Ablan said...

For someone advocating that no advice is good advice, that's good advice!

Anonymous said...

Hi biancs.. Let me share my experience when i had my heart broken. I used to cry alot at work and my boss would actually see me crying. It wasn't my intention for my officemates to see me cry but there are really times when your tears will flow and you have a blank stare in your face.. But one thing that my boss told me when i was going through those time that; '..it is a good pain.' I never really understood what he meant by that really but true, having your heart broken is a good pain because this is life. You will eventually learn from that pain. =)

Anonymous said...

funny... law of attraction i guess... i wrote a blog a few days ago 16April. i was talking 'bout my broken heart and now i see this post. another God's providence. thanks! ;-)

Anonymous said...

sorry if this is not connected to your entry but i just want to say that you REALLY LOOKED GOOD nung first eviction night on pbb. You we're sporting a blair-kind of headband and you're so cute wearing it. I adore blair too, eh. :) Godbless you!-sera

Anonymous said...

"lock yourself in the room, stay in bed all day, don’t talk to anyone for hours, make senti all you want. do it all..."

so true.
sometimes we really need to be alone to avoid pressures and needless stuffs around us..

Anonymous said...

i cannot relate to the topic bcoz i haven't tried to be brokenhearted yet, but soon i will i guess hehehehe...
if time comes, ill remember all what you posted here Ms. Bianca..
thank you for sharing your thoughts...

GEREL said...

i agree with the hurt na sobrang grabe. ;) but borrowing lea salonga's line - "after a great pain, comes a great love". i couldn't agree more...it took me about 4 years to get over with a guy whom i became closed with over a summer (na ni hindi ko nga matawag na boyfriend kasi parang hindi talaga naging kami! duh!) until i met the guy whom i called now my husband. ;) ang saya!

btw, keep on writing i enjoy visiting your blog...i also have my own medyo frustrated writer din kasi ako. hope you can visit me there one day.

God bless...

Anonymous said...

Dear Bianca,

I so agree with you. It really takes time to heal. I'm glad your heart's happy now.

More power to you. May you have more shows and may you inspire more people. . .

Jenny

Arie said...

I like what you said about prayer. The Lord is a complete solution in one. But for others, hindi kasi madali. Para bang napaka complicated sa kanila na si Lord ang solution. How I wish that you could touch someone's broken heart with what you said about prayer in this blog entry. That they may believe and take that leap of faith. One time, I was 'up against a wall'. As in, I was in dire straits. Ironically, my prayer was a prayer of thanks to God, thanking Him for putting me in a bad shape. I believe that the heavy cross we carry is also the one that's gonna carry us through life's rough roads. Thanks for reminding us about prayer. Be blessed, Bianca.

Anonymous said...

love alone... =)

marge said...

ang galing. dahil sa experiences mo, marami kang natutulungan.

stephanie said...

I agree...it's never easy. it even becomes almost like a physical, gnawing hurt.

i hated it. period.

edz said...

ikanga sa kanta ni mariah carey "love takes tym to heal when it hurting so much" ouch as in ouch talaga pag broken hearted ka...ang hirap sobra...but lyk u biancs, still thankful pa rin ako kay Lord na ive experienced all those pains kasi naging matured talaga ako sa mga bagay.bagay...and im very much happy w/ my bf ryt now(f.y.i 4 years na kami)..galing talaga ni Lord, d ko mn hiniling sa kanya, kusa nyang binigay...:)

at advice ko sa mga girls, ok lng maging martyr wag lng magpakatanga..hehehe

again biancs...i luv ur post..:)

Anonymous said...

i UBER love this entry..
keep blogging Miss Bianca..
YOU ROCK! :]

melancholiac said...

that was really well written Bianca.

i am in total agreement with the points you mentioned above. i wanted to write down a few lines from something called "Love's Risk," as it is somehow applicable to your topic, but it's too long to put on a comment. i'm not sure if you have heard of it though. in any case, if you haven't and you'd like to read it, just send me a message and i'll send it right over. if not, i'll put the link below this comment. a few captions from it are in the last portion of the text.

great blog by the way, i just came across it today and was reading what you've written in the previous entries. it's quite rare to come across a blog with such free-spirited honesty. so congrats on it, and on moving on (kahit medyo matagal ka na nakapag-move on right?) :)

The Friend Zone

Rodney Garcia said...

Hello Bianca!

I happen to see your interview at INQUIRER.NET regarding blogging. I have visited to blog a couple of times and I do enjoy reading your posts.

It's interesting when you said that blogging is something therapeutic for you. I feel the same way. It is an outlet. We all have pressures in life and writing seems to be a good alternative to express what's inside. Actually, I type faster than I write. So I guess blogging is a good fit for me.

I started really blogging just about a year ago. I've had some past web projects but I've launched one right now called I WANNA TALK ABOUT... (http://www.iwannatalkabout.com). I was thinking of a blog that I can talk about anything under the sun and it was quite hard to do that in my personal site (http://rodneygarcia.com). The site is almost a month old and it's doing pretty well. If you have time, I do hope you can visit and, maybe, leave a comment as well.

I do appreciate you being so down to earth and all. I know the pressures of showbiz can get to you. Just keep you feet on the ground and surround yourself with friends that can keep you grounded. It's hard to find good friends so keep them close.

If you don't mind, I'll be putting your blog in my links page. Hopefully, it will generate more traffic to your site.

Great job doing your hosting gigs. I know you put a lot of effort into it. Stay passionate.

God bless you!

sarah said...

im tired of crying...

thanks for the lift...

^-^

kristine said...

it's super nice and i hope it help sa mga taong broken-hearted.. Goodluck!

Anonymous said...

saw you last holy week at the shang mactan. i must say you look fantastic , I couldn't imagine you would cry over some one but i guess, even the hottest person on earth would fall for someone. who would make them cry coz of love. But that's how it really is when your on your boyfriend girlfriend stage. Try getting married and you will end up either crying because of anger or just plain anger all the time.

mela said...

i like your new entry a LOT!!
congrats sa "happy heart" mo =]
...
i truly believe that everything happens for a reason esp when it comes to loving someone & having to let go .. tska God won't give us these heartaches/challenges if alam nya na we can't handle it =]

Anonymous said...

to bigbrother,

si bianca na lang sa uber please!
si bianca na lang ulit....

one more chance!

dana canicosa said...

hi bianca! i really love your entry. =) i learned a lot from it. though, i've never been in a relationship yet (i'm still young...haha), i was able to relate because i remembered my past experiences regarding my relationship with family and friends, and even my experiences in school. =) because i really loved your entry, i was inspired to write about it on my own blog and please forgive me if i quoted you. anyway, keep inspiring a lot of people! =) God bless you! =) -dana c. =)

dana canicosa said...

by the way, my blog address is icanwriteyey.blogspot.com =) thank you! =)

prinsesanikel said...

sabi nga ni mareng alanis =)...
the only way out is through. =)

Camille said...

Hi Bianca! :) Your entries are very inspiring & your write very well. :)

Try visiting http://climatecrisis.net if you haven't visited it yet. I care for Mother Earth and I know you do, too. :)

amidala said...

When we are heartbroken, we refuse to move on sometimes, if not most of the time, because no matter how hard or how painful the things we are going through, we are actually enjoying the moment. Alam na nating masakit but instead of moving on, we delay the moment. we listen to sad songs tapos we cry buckets and buckets of tears. Pero sa totoo lang, it's all in the mind lang naman dba. our heart is just another body organ. It pumps blood. That's all. I'm sounding like Cristina in Grey's but I parang feel na it's a fact. If it's not, then why do we just laugh about the whole experience years after. Tapos we realize how stupid we were. hehehe

I don't know how to express this idea but it's like this, parang we live the moment hanggang magsawa na tayo. Not thinking na sometimes we so much dwell on it that we have already wasted so much time. But if you'll have the wisdom na it's really meant to happen because God says so then you have to accept it and move on. We go through heart aches because one, we made a choice and two, ito ang nakatadhana.

But I swear hindi ka tao if you don't experience any heart aches. masarap kayang mag-emote!aminin!hahaha

iwillcallmydaughtergaia said...

hi. this is a good entry. i've never experienced it myself but in playing dr love to many of my friends, i realised na the heart wants what it wants nga talaga and sometimes moving on from a break up takes a lot more than one can imagine but with sufficient support and an unwavering faith, everything will fall in its respective place.

enjoy the summer!

junielynn said...

ok lng po ba kung i.link ko po kau s blog ko?kc po,ginawa ko n po eh...heheheh cnsya n po kung ngayon lng me ng.paalam.. i just reading ur blog that's why...

Anonymous said...

i love ur entry! nkarelate ako tlga! :) u sure know what ur talking abt :D keep blogging! :P

essa said...

hay...di pa ko naiinlove eh..hehe
but when i do,,and when if my heart will be broken,.i will read this...

im happy that youre already healed!
coz you deserve a happy heart, i know!

^_^

Anonymous said...

u deserve that happy heart miss bianca!!!

as wat toni says,,,,,time heals all wounds... so i guess after a few months..( months nga ba tlaga????) naka move on kna rin..



cge...tek ker olweiz...!!

btw, i watched boy and kris knina...ur lyk,,, happy nmn tlaga w/ ur lyf... so enjoy!!!ehehe


czarina :p

myra said...

soo true..i can say im in the middle of becoming 'brokenhearted' (hopefully not)..cgro ur ryt, absorbing every bit of pain and understanding that everything happens for a reason can mend sad heart. gaano man kadme ang advices na naririnig mo, the bottomline is that it's still up to you...move on or be left behind..

yeni said...

bianca, i am a brokenhearted right now.. and this blog of yours made me feel way, way better. thank you. =)

Camille said...

*You write very well. :)

Anonymous said...

"If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces and start again." That's the beauty of being alive; we can always start all over again! (",)

Anonymous said...

You're so back to posting Bianca! I love reading you blog! thanks for inspring your readers alot thru sharing the things you've learned and realized base on your own experiences. I would really love to be your lil sister (kung pwede lang sana!)

Hope to meet you in person one day Bianca!

God bless you and stay happy! :-)

***Joanna***

ann said...

hey bianca! =)

nice entry..im sure a lot of people can relate to this..

I guess positive words, advice and comfort from friends can be considered as our support system in this situation.

Mending a broken heart is not easy. There's no easy way out..We have to go through the process of absorbing the pain, denial, accepting and eventually moving on. But in the end, the learnings are worth all the pain=)(i guess!) hehe!

We just have to be ready always to take risks and accept life's challenge. Anyways, its always part of HIS plan. HE knows better, we just have to trust ;)

have a wonderful day! (",)

Anonymous said...

Great blog bianca...........
Is the pain of the past still haunting and hurting you?Only you
can turn ur scars into stars!
Release urself from hurt. Let go!
Celebrate new life.

*^_^* mafe

_cheese-a-cake_ said...

naks nmn poh, ate bianca.

grabeh! you're so strong talaga.

You have been feeling hopeless but the way you act on tv doesn't show it.

i hope i could meet you or just so help me. i've really wanted to be on tv. my greatest dream is to be a host like what you are doing.

kaya nga, my course will be mass communication.

i hope you could advise me... ♥

Anonymous said...

hewOOO biANcA....i sOO like ur bloGzz....learn sOO mucH...TANcHOOO.....inspired MEh a lotz.....

trish said...

wow..nice to knoe you're such a good writer and a good servant of the Lord..Shalom! ^_____^

Cj said...

hi bianca..it is okay if i repost this in my multiply..it's a very good entry actually i'm going through a hard time right now..hope you don't mind thanks!!

Anonymous said...

you never fail to amaze me.

Paula pinKIKAY said...

ei Bianca! nice post! ang ganda ng mga sinabi mo...I'm sure marami kang na-inspired na tao...stay happy!

dgreat said...

halu biancs, pwede hiram ko post mo ang ganda kasi, post ko lng sa blog ng friendster ko since mas madami akong friends nanagbabasa dun, super real ng post mo at daming makakarelate nito for sure...tnx:)

Lucy said...

Maybe God allowed you to go through all that so that both of you would realize each other's worth, how much you guys love each other and/or how both of you can never permanently replace each other after all. God does have a sense of humor, huh? :)

P.S. You don't have to approve this comment, Bianca. After all, I do not know the whole story. Or the real story, rather. Only God does. I just overanalyze a lot that it's about to become a sport. :)

God bless! :)

Precious! said...

Bianca,

Finding myself new & random to your blog and having read this entry, I felt like God finally spoke to me. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's true. Having a broken heart really does suck, but thank you for showing me & hundreds of other people that there is still a "tomorrow" after all the crying and moping is done with. With that said, thank you for speaking your mind.

I guess there's just something in the air, with all the breakups going on, yea?

With all good wishes for you. May your heart stay happy. God bless.

she said...

nakakatuwa. para tlagang advice coming from a friend you know personally ang feeling ko while reading your post.

well, i guess, that makes your blog unique and stands out among the rest of the celebrities blogs that are accessible over the web. very sincere and comes from the heart.

thank you po, bianca. God bless you. :)

Anonymous said...

I was brokenhearted almost a year ago with my first girlfriend. First brokenhear, first time to feel the intolerable pain. We loved each other, but our relationship was very complicated. Though I completely understand her reasons, I still couldn't accept the fact that we won't end up together. Gusto ko siyang itanan from Manila to Baguio kahit wala kaming kakilala doon. But she held firmly on her decision to marry the one she called her "ideal man" who's also well-loved by her family.

That's a year ago. We had no communication since then. I was so down that time. But after the dark, light will always comes next. Now, I can say that I have totally moved on, with the girl who is also deserving for my love.

I grabbed my second chance. Now, I'm happy. I just hope she is also happy with the life she has chosen.

patty said...

Hi!! d ako masyadong makarelate because ive never been into a relationship since the world begun and ill be 22 this year heheehe..But I knew it would help me a lot when that time comes..As what kuya said sa takdang panahon

Abby Copuyoc said...

Hi Bianca,

How are you? This is Abby Copuyoc -- we worked in CDG before? How are you na? Been hearing some great things about you from the Philippines. Glad for you that your career is taking off to greater heights! I actually saw you in a mall event for Lipton Milk Tea when I visited the Phils last Feb but I thought you were busy so I didn't wanna disturb. I was hoping I'd see you at Mori's party that night. Well, here's my Hi anyway! Hello!

Anyway, just wanted to park a comment in your blog and say that you're doing a great job! Your posts are very relevant to the Filipino blog viewing public and you communicate well through your blog. I especially admire the fact that you blog with a very positive tone and you're not afraid to touch on any topic. I'll link to your blog if you don't mind!

I work in viral marketing now here in LA, so I work full-time and freelance in what you call Web 2.0. Check out my blog at Wonderabby . The small group I am leading at The Dream Center (a christian church in LA) also has a blog called the dreamweaver .

Thanks Bianca! I know you're busy so I hope this gets to you. Feel free to leave a comment on my blog as a holler back. Ingat!

Abby C :)

ApéUy said...

"when your heart is troubled, still give thanks and ask for deliverance"

tama nga po ms.bianca! kahit anu pa man dumating sa ;tin, dapat lang na magpasalamat tau sa kanya!

medyo katulad nung ni-post ko sa blog ko na poem, ung hehe!

kaka-start ko pa lang po..ganda po ng mga posts nyo, ilalagay ko nga po toh sa mga fave links ko..hehe! salamat po!

Jeremy Romero said...

Guess what? Naka-relate din ako sa blog entry... although, hindi pa ako nakakapasok sa isang relationship, maraming ulit ding nahulog ang loob ko sa mga taong naging special sa akin...

wala na ngang patutunguhan, pero grabe pa ang sakit na naibabalik sa akin... wala naman ang nagnais na masaktan ako... kusa na lang talagang gigimbal sa iyo...

-/ON? said...

it was very nice and well written...
i love it..
it touched me inside...
thanks!!

cstpimentel said...

Been here and I think I would be a regular. :)

icy said...

naranasan ko na yan bianca...

and those are the exact words that i felt.....

thanks for posting....

now i have a peaceful and happy heart.....

Anonymous said...

thanks for posting:)

kristina noelle said...

"go let it out"
awtz. very true...

rodz said...

gaya nga ng sabi ni spider sa book na Vince's Life, "time wounds all heals". mali, pero ang cute.

and maybe kaya di natin kayang magmove on minsan is we hold on too much sa mga memories-because memories are all we have when we are in pain.

NyAsH said...

nice post!! very well said!! ..^_^

Anonymous said...

i really hope that someday this broken heart will be whole again.:((

roxanne said...

sooo true...nice post bianca. :)
and hopefully... soon i would have a happy heart... sana sana sana!!!!

Anonymous said...

im into this heartache na nman. and reading ur blog (from a frnd) helps me realize things... it's still hurting cos i know im still holding on. i dunno why i love too d*mn much. i've known him over a year now and the relationship as bf/gf only took 5mos. weird huh? now, i was like thinking "i should've said no." well at least i didnt get hurt and probably have a better frndship. we just talk earlier (honestly) to have a closure. it's been 2weeks kc where he left me hanging. he didnt wanna communicate with me. worse he made me feel like i just have to read what's on his mind. but im no mind reader?! hell no! i did all the efforts to save the relationship cos like what i said, i love him too d*amn much! but i lost. we work together and it hurt the most when for some reasons we were ignoring/avoiding each other. he didnt even look @ me. ouch tlga! i always break down @ work without him knowing cos goodness, i couldnt help it anymore. and after few days, i though we're gonna be ok cos we were back to normal like how we used to be when we were still ok. he gave that glimpse of hope that we're gonna be ok but to my surprise, after two days, i check his profile and he updated his status to "single". without telling me. i had to talk to him... he came this morning and talked about evrything. it was just so sad cos that moment i was lookin @ him, i still feel the pain of loving him! i admit, i'd be stupid if i give him the chance but my heart's tellin me the other way. i still love him, i know. i saved the frndship but i dunno if it will be good for me. i fall in love the hard way and i mend a broken heart the HARDER way. its really stupid cos i still feel for him and i couln't get mad @ him cos if i do, it'll jus hurt me more. i promised myself, "im not gonna let the same guy hurt me twice" but lookin at him earlier when we were talkin, gosh! im shaking. i wanted to cry. there were a lot pauses that time where i just had to stare @ him, thinkin and hopin that it's jus a nightmare. that we're gonna fix thing up. but i failed. i do love him. and i remember what i told myself before i got into this relationship that, "dont fall too hard cos i know what i get when i do" but here i am already.. again... is it not enough?? do i really need to get hurt once, twice, thrice and more jus to know and realize what love can bring?? that it not only happiness but also sadness and despair??? hope to get well soon. i hope it wont take me years again to pick up my pieces and make it whole... well, i just got hurt... 2weeks of crying??? how much time do i still have to be ok??

Allene said...

i've read it because i needed it badly.

i had this "5 yrs and counting" relationship which is really going down with 30% hope to survive. a very wonderful relatioship just waiting for the right time of marriage.

Yet i never expected the betrayal would happen. Somehow, my love might have accidentally slipped to the wrong way. it's hard because i have invested a lot for the relationship. and the other girl even has the courage of throwing bad words on me.

i've fought for it until now. i'm still with him. He says he loves me, he shows me that he's willing to go back and count more years for the relationship.

i have forgiven, but i can never forget. i still want the relationship to stay, my love is willing to fight too. but i can never forget and had the fear of being betrayed once again.

i do not know wat to do anymore but am willing to help him go back to the right path. but if the pain still grow everyday, i'd have to stop and move on.

thanks i have read ur blog..i just knew that i have the right to cry it all out. im just too scared to have my family worry about me.it has been almost 2 weeks still.i can now cry and someday i hope to get through with it. and yup, prayers has been my shield against this pain.

hope to hear more from the organization of broken hearted.... :)

marian said...

i super agree with everything.. thank you for writing this entry.. it helped me a lot..

currently having a "shattered" heart.. and i'm finding my way to my happy state..

hayz.. thank you so much.. =)

simply aysa said...

so inspiring bianca!!!

thanks for the post!

blessing said...

i'm in my lowest time right now... reading your entry somehow made me feel a lot more better. your uplifting words gave me hope and strength. thanks to you bianca... you really touched me deep.

ayi said...

you know what bianca? i felt as if we're one. aside from the fact we're a spitting image haha. i feel what u feel. our thoughts are the same. grabe. haha...

Anonymous said...

you hit right the spot! :)

somehow, though your entry kinda made me feel better about my own dilemma. thank you so much for posting this. i feel a little better that finally, somebody somehow understands what im going through :D though not completely. thank you talaga! super.

aN2uAn gReG said...

bianca thanks talaga for this guidance...good advice from your personal experiences.

Indeed, you are a great person in ur own way.

keep up the good work and may we all be happy always.

Anonymous said...

thanks so much bianca for this..i've been reading your blogs and you never fail to amaze me..

my relationship went from best to non-existent in a snap. it's harder because aside from the break-up he was the most doting person i've met. i know he has reasons for letting us go. i can't bring myself to be mad at him. because an angry heart takes longer to heal. i just want him to be happy even if it means not being with me. prayers do help a LOT..=)

listening to leona lewis's better in time is helping me through...

i know soon my heart will be happy again. =)

i'm happy your heart's happy! you deserve it!

-camille

Belay said...

hi ate bianca. :)

i know, possibly and probably, you won't be able to read my comment cos it's too late and i know you're too busy.

but i want to thank you. :) lahat ng sinabi mo po sa post na ito, naka-relate ako. :) my heart is currently breaking... my boyfriend of almost 2 years and i broke up last april 30. yes, wala pa pong 1 week. akala ko po i'll be better in days kasi this is not the 1st time we have broken up.

the difference is, now, the pain is worse. he doesn't love me anymore. despite the things i did and gave him, he still chose not to love me. i dunno... hay. ayan. nalulungkot pa rin po ako ng bongga. XD

i know i don't have to dwell in the pain too much... but i can't. kahit madaming nagcocomfort sa akin, kapag mag-isa na ako, ang emptiness na nararamdaman ko ay 1000% felt. i have never felt so ugly, worthless and stupid in my whole life.

napakwento lang po ako ng bongga. hehehe. pero salamat po ate bianca. do you mind if i copy your post? i'll just read it everyday. :) or maybe post it in my multiply and i'll credit you! :)

as i've said before (i commented in one of your past past entries) how much i idolize you. :) you inspire me po sobra!!!

again, thank you thank you ate bianca. :) God bless!

Allene said...

am over it.. am happier that we're just friends right now... i did cried as hard as i could..it really helped a lot together with prayers.. now am somehow over it already.. friendship is all what i could offer... thanks..thanks for posting this writeup..

nikkisembrano said...

If you have the time, please read this quote

This quote will continue to linger as long as i live... I LOVE IT!!!!

"We all have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy… Every day, we try to pretend that we haven’t perceived that moment, that it doesn’t exist, that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists, a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles. Joy is sometimes a blessing, but often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments, but all of this is transitory; it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken. Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she/he won’t suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when that person looks back, and at some point everyone looks back, he/she will hear their heart saying, “what have you done with the miracles that God planted in your days? What have you done with the talents God bestowed on you? You buried yourself in a cave because you were fearful of losing those talents. So this is your heritage: the certainty that you wasted your life.” Pitiful are the people who must realize this. Because when they are finally able to believe in miracles, their life’s magic moments will have already passed them by…"
-Paulo Coelho ("By The River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept")

kryxie said...

Does it really hard to fix a broken heart? Sorry I've never been in love.

Kistlove said...

very well written. i agree.
cheers to people like us. :)
thank you bianca, this entry has inspired me on how to heal my heart this time.

_patrick_john_ said...

whew!

inspiring..
and I was thinking no one understand what I was going through..

Now it just inspire me to tell my own story.. maybe I think about writing one.

Great job...
So its not only me feeling this way.

lvdvitug said...

Hi Bianca I'm Lawrence I'm fan of yours I keep reading your blogs and it also inspired me to make one also Hope you read this comment tnx

INA LAW said...

million thanks sa sinulat mo...moving on is indeed a hard process....I almost gave up and I thought of just leaving everything in my life in a state of disarray and not move on...but I didn't...I decided to walk towards the path of healing...however, when I was walking on the path...I sometimes doubted myself if I was doing the right thing....sometimes I looked over my shoulders..looked back and be sad again and shed tears...ang hirap talaga...AND then I read your posting....I told my heart..we did the right thing ..and slowly and surely we are indeed moving towards a time and place where we can leave the past behind and learn to love again....Maraming salamat ulit, Bianca...I wish u good luck always !

Gail T. said...

true words. thank you, bianca. if you don't mind, i'll share this post with my friend, who is having a broken heart. i'm sure she will appreciate #1, and will tell me to stop giving her advice.

personally, i love your thoughts in #2. from another sister in Christ, thanks.

God bless you.

JOYCE ni JEAN said...

Yup you're right... Masakit, mahirap. Sometimes mas gusto pang wag na magsalita ng kahit ano and let the wind dry my tears nalang...

Anonymous said...

amazingly written by someone who has seemingly gone through it all.

I've been from an 8-year relationship which eventually failed...and I must say, 'am more than happy [now] it did.

kudos to you biancs!

articulategurl said...

...elow Ms. Bianca.. yup! I agree to others that this was the best post you've made.. being in love?!! the nicest feeling and as ironic being heart broken is the worst to date but life goes on 'coz in the end of mourning our heart will soon bounce back to life and won't be afraid to love again...

Anonymous said...

sana happy heart na rin ako like you =)

ailec said...

hi bianca! i like your entry and it made me realize some points in life. i'm going through a bad time (not totally broken heart but almost) and as i'm reading your entry i found myself realizing some things... and slowly moving on. thanks a lot!

blessed be.

(http://b3rrychic.multiply.com)

kiMme said...

wow. what a truly inspiring post, Ate Bianca. tama lahat ng sinabi mo.. :)

you continue to be an inspiration to me everyday. thank you! :)

m a r l a said...

you're so very pretty miss bianca... i like you soo much! :)...

Lawrence said...

Hi Bianca I love ur blogs and it is very inspiring !!!! More power to ur show tnx !!!!

Anonymous said...

sobrang tama lahat ng sinabi mo ate bianx..grbe,,totoo lahat..galing galing,,, looking forward to see your happy heart:)

rodz said...

i keep reading this entry over and over. it's because it remminds me of everything- heartaches, happiness, thanksgiving, faith, hope-everything.
i would like to share another inspiring book on heartaches. it is entitled How to Mend a Broken Heart (by Nelson T. Dy). It is a really, really good book. It had healed me emotionally and spiritually. It has moved me the way this post did.

Ivy said...

I needed this.. thanks Bianca :)

ella said...

you're surely is something. i hate the way you dress but your heart is so beautiful to compensate.

pain can make a person even more stronger.

in any part of our lives we cannot omit pain. but just cry it all out.
pray for more strength, wisdom and a big big heart to surpass all the hurting.

Anonymous said...

:(
what if ur in a situation where ur broken hearted but its not the end of ur relationship w/ ur bf?
uv been hurting for weeks...and although u make up, after 2 weeks, u fight again and u feel that ur heart is literally bleeding..it just hurts..
what do u recommend i do? hmmm...

:(

callcentergal said...

I was in that stage before =)

On Advice...

Its true that no matter what people say you should do, you will always end up doing it your way. Minsan hindi nakakatulong (in my opinion) yung mga unsolicited advice kasi mas lalong nakakagulo.

Its only you who can decide on how you want to handle the situation and when you want to move on...

That's too much from me...

I always digg posts like this... I'll be back for more. =)

Anonymous said...

what if your heart is lost, not broken?

gugma giatay said...

maybe bianca you are only meant to be at that moment but not meant to be forever.

pero i guess whats the most painful experience is when someone u love suddenly gone without a word na di mo nga alam if that person is stil alive. buti pa sayo naging broken hearted ka pero you could stil see him...

christine said...

salamat! my heart is going through the worst time right now, but reading your blog gives me hope that one days (hopefully in the near future) my heart will feel as happy and peaceful as yours =)

Anonymous said...

Hi bianca.. im always a fan of yours in almost everything you are into. after reading this post i realized that i have to move and give love another chance for me to be happy.. I hope i will have my happy heart soon. :)

ayyzzz said...

i just love tis post. i could somehow relate to it.

sobrang i also undergo all those things. hahaha

but em happy now. yeah!

i have a HAPPY HEART now...no more bitterness. hahaha

janna said...

thank you for posting. [=
it helps a lot.

Anonymous said...

sobrang tama lahat ng mga sinabi mo.. lalo na yung sa advice, hay! ang galing,, daming nakarelate sa blog na to:))

matagal na since i've experience a heartache, nakamove na rin ako pero nung nbasa ko tong blog mo parang bumalik lahat ung mga times na my heart was in pain, i was crying so hard and i isolated my self from the people around me kc i dont know how to handle what i am feeling.. grbeng experience yun..

everyone deserves to have HAPPY HEART :))

yey!

take care..:)

gizee said...

i love this entry..
waah CRY ALL YOU WANT.. urgh! hobby ko na ngang umiyak! XD

hirap mag move on, grabe!!
uhm anyway, nice entry, may natutunan ako.. stay pretty! godbless!

Anonymous said...

everytime i visit your page, i never fail to read.. and re-read this entry.

sobrang naka-relate ako..naalala ko yung mga pinagdaanan ko nun..

now i'm healed, pinapa basa ko 'to sa mga friends kong broken hearted din.

thank you bianca ..stay happy :-D

Anonymous said...

oh god.. you all look the same.

dianney said...

sooooo nice..
i like it...
i'm so touched....




stay pretty!

Anonymous said...

hi Ate Bianca!!! I agree to everything you have written here!!! I know you are fine and will do fine. take care and careful.

Bonski said...

i totally agree.. the only thing that helped me move on is prayer.. it truly helped me a lot.. and im so thankful i got HIM..

its really true.. nice post bianx!! :)

mejchixteen said...

hi ate bianca :)

super ganda talaga ng blog mo :)

very. VERY INSPIRING :)

saludo talaga ako sayo, you're someone i look up to :)

for me, you're the model of today's youth. beauty & brains. wow :)

thanks again for your inspiring words ^_^

God bless :)

-/ON? said...

i have read this on the past and still kept readin it, it's good 'siguro' na may kumokopya ng post mo na to ate bianca and repost it to their blogs, kaso nkakasad lang kasi it seems na 'parang' inaangkin nila that it's their own post, coz they don't even care acknowledge. dami ko na nakita, 3 to be exact, all from multiply.nakaksad lang..hehehe. un lang po! ingat! God bless!

-/ON? said...

hi it's me again..share ko lng po..hehehe..natatawa po kasi ako kasi nabdtrip ung mga nilagyan ko ng comment bout copying this post of yours. ung isa binura ung comment ko, ung isa binura ung post na kinopya niya, ung isa binura ung post niya rin tpos ngreact sa comment ko.hehehe.

Miah Laborte said...

nag-eemote ako with my bestfriend while crying then he told me abut this article... nice post bianca... sana maka-move on din ako gaya mo...

Anonymous said...

wow.ate bianca it was WOW. =| it's my first day sa ganitong sitwasyon well im still learning and still dead.grieving. =|

ezring said...

woah.so true.:)

joelemmanuel said...

So true. Thanks, Bianca :)

Anyway, thanks for sharing your blog with us :)

Kai said...

I read your blog since the time I heard about it. And the first time I saw this entry I wanted to volunteer that we collaborate on your book :)

I actually started blogging in order to heal. It started as an anonymous blog: no tags, no links to other blogs, etc. And then one time, to avoid telling a lengthy story, I just sent the link to a blog entry and that was how some of my friends began to read it. But while it is based on true events, I use representations, change the names, etc. Very much like fiction. I am not as brave as you. And I really admire your courage, the strength of your character to endure that.

This entry is something I can't just not read again without saying "I salute you!"

Anonymous said...

hello bianca!!I love reading your blog.i learn a lot from you..Idol kita at your age dami mo na experienced iba ang level of thinking mo..
mybe nasa stage nga ako ng broken hearted, pero di ko alam. im confused nasasaktan ako sobrang sakit, i cnt explain the feeling.di ko kasi ma share sa iba.ang hirap sobra..sana maka move on ako pero i really dont know how..

Anonymous said...

hi hello, how are you? i hope you are fine always.... muwaah.... tsup-tsup-tsup...

angelalouise said...

You're so positive. :D

Anonymous said...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS POST OF YOURS. I ALWAYS READ THIS. I GET INSPIRED AND I SOMETIMES THINK THAT MAYBE IT'S TRUE. TIME WILL COME THAT I'LL BE READY TO LET GO.

elai said...

iam in the process of moving on.. and i can still feel the sting of the break up.. there will be just a time na you feel okei pero by the end of the day wala parin hindi ka parin okei.. and all you can do is just cry because your longing for her cuddles and sweet kisses. :(

tala-chan said...

i love this journal entry of yours, it is very well-written and it really moves me... it makes me wanna move on with my life... naging positive na pananaw ko about love...

super thanks talaga! :D

:-*
Tala-chan

mie said...

"for some it takes weeks. for some, months. for some, years!" ah yes, and only time can tell...

mackyramirez said...

thanks bianca.. i needed that

hustakyo said...

hi super bianca!crush kita talaga!harhar!i read ur comment!di ka lang maganda..so smart pa!..gumagawa na din ako blogsite ko,follower mo na din pala ko..ayun,sana mabasa mo mga blogs ko..pero wag muna ngayon..corny pa!hehehe!galingan o pa super bianca!super crush kita!hope ull stay happy pa din!keep it up super girl!^^

swexie said...

so true.. especially the "advice" part... (--,)

La Unica Hija said...

Everything you wrote was right. and I'm glad that I got a chance to read this. ^_^

jc said...

yeah.ang galing nga nung advice part.
nice.d ko akaling ganito ka tlg.hahahaha:))
stay happy nlng tayo.
*throw them nga in the window!hahahaha!



-jc

leah said...

you're the best! i been in my darkest life when seems the world made me so unloved but all i just do is to pray and cry and when my tears tired of flowing in my eyes thats the time i was healed..

Theren Alexander said...

Hi Bianca!

I want to thank you so much for this blog entry. This has served like my antidote to get up and face my heartbreak: (SEE LINK BELOW)

http://therenalexander.blogspot.com/2008/09/i-have-penned-so-many-love-stories-in.html

Someday when I get to have back my HAPPY HEART, I will also be able to write for another person's broken heart. Thank you for helping to bring back the confidence and faith I almost completely lost.

Anonymous said...

bianca, ive read this entry some years ago..the time na sobrang brokenhearted ako after breaking up with my ex..and yah, sobrang nakaka-relate ako.iyong iiyak mo before going to sleep, iiyak mo pagising mo..etc..sobrang naranasan ko iyon..parang bangungot iyong sakit..nakakabaliw. but wat really helped me at that time ay iyong sinulat mo na makaka-move on ka rin..that it will happen for me. that i might feel it wont, that the day i will be ok will never come, but it will. maniwala ka lang, na mangyayari iyon. honestly, minsan gusto kong i-fastworward ung tym to dat day..haha. pero sobrang salamat..kasi this entry of yours really helped me. at that tym sabi ko..babasahin ko ito uli the time na magiging ok na ako.thanks to u=)

Ivane said...

Did you also do those crazy/ pride-shattering things that would sometimes make you think you're already as crazy as someone that would pass up to be brought to the mental hospital? hehe

Anonymous said...

Hi Bianca,

Your blog about the broken hearted is a blessing to all those who are going through a painful heart break. I just lost someone i love without even a goodbye and i don't know what happened. I decided to move on and be happy for myself.

Your blog is a warm comfort to my ailing heart knowing there is someone out there who understands the pain.

I hope to forget soon. Thanks for the inspiration and keep on writing!

God bless the work of your hands!

Gracey

christine said...

super like!!..

I've also been in a relationship that didn't worked out.. Actually that was kinda odd coz the span of courtship was longer than the relationship itself.. We started as high school classmates then eventually we became friends then he started to court me.. The courtship lasted for "4YRS" coz I felt that I wasn't ready to be in a relationship during that time and I dont wanna risk our friendship.. But through the years I realized that I also love him more than as a friend.. So when we reached 3rd college, I answered him.. I thought that will be the beginning of a happy relationship but after 3mos, I discovered that he has some else.. super iyak talaga ako nun.. and what made it worse is when I knew that sila na pala nung girl bago pa naging kami!!.. I wasnt aware that I was the 3rd party in their relationship.. super, as in super sakit talaga!!.. But i chose to broke up with him kahit na super love ko sya coz I dont wanna ruin their relationship and ayoko ring masaktan pa yung girl.. Ganun atat talaga, sometimes you need to risk your own happiness para hindi na masaktan yung iba..

thanks for posting this again coz i know it well be a huge help to someone na dadaan sa bigong relasyon..☺

God Bless Bianca..
may u continue to inspire others..;)

Anonymous said...

when it comes to matters of the heart, esp kung broken hearted lahat tayo nagiging scientist.. naghahanap ng cure, nagtatanong ng maraming maraming tanong...hindi nga maka conclude kung ano nga ba talaga ang sagot sa mga tanong... sometimes walang sagot..ang hirap.

Anonymous said...

I've been reading your enrty so many times. As in super paulit ulit. What you said are all so true. I may be not ok this time, but I'll be fine. With faith to my Lord, I'll be fine. And yepyep, looking forward for my "happy heart"!!! Soooon.

Thank you Ms. Bianca. You're really such a blessings to everyone.

Lovelots,
xane

Anonymous said...

Hi Ms. Bianca. I hope and pray that your always doing fine kahit may ups and down along the way. I just want you to know Im your most avid fan. I simply adore you. Everything about you. That includes reading ever entry in your blog. Reading it over and over. hehe

In regards to broken hearted issue, nakarelate ako. I was a good adviser when it comes to love. that's the time na hindi ko pa nararanasan yung true love. But when TL strick and it brokes my heart, whoaaa, as in super duper painful. i just learned one thing, don't love and expect tooooooo much.

But at the end of day, we should be thankful and happy not because we lost love, but once in our life that feeling live in our heart and made us happy.

Masarap pa rin magmahal at mahalin.

Thanks,
Roxy