21 January 2008

mood: missing the men in my life!


i've always been very, very vocal about my being a kuya's girl, and also about how proud i am of my best friend. they are two of the most important men in my life and i am sooo blessed to have them! together with the women in their lives, they hit the road to napa valley just last weekend. my brother jc and my best friend pepel.. together!! aaack! i swear naiiyak ako sa tuwa! di ko man sila kasama, ang saya saya na malaman na magkasama sila dun at nag-eenjoy ng todo todo!

you've met tracy, my brother's beautiful fiancee. now, meet pat, my best friend's beautiful girlfriend!!



the four of them are based in san francisco, but the two couples hardly get together. after a day of bonding (and drinking! =p) out of town, they all vowed to see each other more often! yaaay! ang saya saya ko talaga! its sooo great to know my brother enjoys my best friend's company, and, my best friend loves my brother's company!



in one word: hero
brother since: birth, and i was born 1983.
favorite bonding activity: hanging out at home and bumming while squeezing into one bed with our sister.
next favorite bonding activity: watching foreign and independent films!
most major fight: my getting mad at him for teasing me that i looked like a boy in my haircut, around 1995.
last moment together: a teary goodbye in the san francisco airport, january 2007.
will be seeing him again: may 2008! his wedding!! woohooooooo!!



in one word: crazy
best friend since: second year college, that was around 2001.
favorite bonding activity: endless conversations while on a road trip to tagaytay.
next favorite bonding activity: shopping!
most major fight: hmm.. none.
last moment together: a freezing goodbye in a new york subway station after watching 'phantom of the opera', january 2007.
will be seeing him again: january 2009, our kabarkada pao and geline's wedding!

BROW! PEL! i love and miss you both!!

59 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi bianca! Wow! nakakatouched naman ang post mo!! I envy your closeness to your brother. How I wish I also had a brother. hehehe. Bihira lang din makahanap ng best friend na lalaki. Your lucky to have them in your life, bianca!

I hope na sana soon you will find "A MAN OF YOUR LIFE naman." I hope and pray na sana you will find someone who will PROTECT YOU, DEFEND YOU, STAND UP FOR YOU, BE PROUD OF YOU. Someone who will TREAT LIKE A PRINCESS AND LOVE YOU FOR THE WAY YOU ARE. Someone who would make you FEEL BEAUTIFUL. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, SOMEONE WHO WOULD LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. Sana maka-meet ka ng guy wherein masasabi mo sa sarili mo na, "I'VE FINALLY FOUND SOMEONE I CAN PROUDLY CALL MINE."

God bless you always bianca! Be strong!!!!

Anonymous said...

hay.. i super miss my brothers, too... my elder brow is based in florida, and the other one is based in singapore. im really close to my brothers, that's why i know how you feel. my life is incomplete without them, life sucks without them... they are my idols! hehe.. love your post, kaya i cant help myself not to leave a comment... well, nice blog ate bianca! take lotsa care! be safe! God bless!

pynk

Anonymous said...

=D my shoe was kinda big no haha

MYCKLE said...

hi bianx! You're so lucky to have these men in your life! I also have a girl bestfriend and we also have the same favorite bonding moment with you...shopping..although kami, we take time to watch Gossip Girl together and Grey's Anatomy...lolz

pow wow!!! said...

your very own "big brother" jc is very very very very youthful-looking!!! mukha siyang bagets!!!

my god, he looks even younger than your ate aissa!...si ate aissa mo naman looks kinda matured, di kaya siya ang eldest sa inyong tatlo?!

kelly said...

hi ms. bianca!! nakakainggit ka tlaga dahil you have a great kuya!!! huhu i wish sana meron din ako....i really enjoy your blog. more power sayo and of coarse have a good health..

bestbudz said...

hello biancs, na fifeel ko talaga nafifeel mo biancs...let me share u my story...sort of related kasi eh...i have 2 bestfriends as in super close talaga kami since college. we do have lots of common things na kami lng talaga nagkakaintindihan,pero meron din kaming ibang frnds...yung isa, unexpectedly may isang bagay lng na hindi nya sinabi sa akin, yun yung pupunta na cya sa taiwan kasi natanggap cya sa work...super naiiyak talaga ako nung araw na yun, imagine 1 week n lng den lilipad na cya sa ibang bansa...but i have no choice but 2 spent few days with him...bar hopping, shopping, inuman...bsta lahat ng bagay na nag.eenjoy kami together ay ginawa namin yun in 1 week n lng...nakakasad dba...at nung flyt na nya balak ko sana na di cya ihahatid sa airport, ngtxt n lng cya sa akin na nasa airport na cya with his family, at di ko talga natiis, pumunta ako sa airport w/ our frnds at nung nagcheck.in na cya, d ko talaga na control sarili ko at super iyak talaga me, as in...parang ganun n lng kadali dba?tapos one year after, isa ko na namang friend pumunta ng new york for good..huhuhu super sad talaga, buti n lng may internet pero iba talga pagkasama yung mga taong importante sayo...yung isa uuwi ng ds coming nov.2008, yung isa d pa sure but hopefully ds 2009...super excited na akong ma met cla muli...:)

kaRen_myxmatch said...

Biancs! your bestfriend is sooo cute hahaha :)

hello Pepel.. hehe

ann said...

hey bianca!

i always check your blog to see ur latest post and pix as well..
thanks for taking time to share to us to us your wonderful thoughts and stories likewise interesting events in ur life..

more to come! god bless!

xie xie!

bianca said...

chuck, thank you sa message! it means a lot. :) salamat! GoD bless you!

kae said...

this entry was so sweet. you are so lucky! =

take care.

by the way, USTv awards usually happens around january and february diba? sana kasama ka ulit dun para makita kita ulit. I'll sure watch it, sa ust naman ang work ko eh. =)

typeblits21 said...

Hey!

I saw that commercial of S4S on TFC and decided to google you, so here I am! I didn't know that the guy on Speak Out happens to be your brother! I swore I saw him somewhere. But anyway.. nice blogspot.

-binbin

bianca jr said...

hi po.. its really nice to have your best man in your life.. yung hindi romantically engage, pero lam mong siya yung isang lalake na magiging kaibigan mo hanggang sa pagtanda mo..

mejo naninibago na nga ko ngayon sa bestbud ko.. after he graduated from college, ala na talaga kami maxadong bonding like before. may work na ksi plus the fact that he has his girl. pero im trying to adjust, and i still believe that he will be there, not because i want to, but because i need to. =)

anyway, unfortunately, i didnt witnessed the gandingan award's night. ala ako sa elbi,kung alam ko lang, hindi ako umuwi ng qc. =) (im studying at UPLB, by the way.) so, congrats! and keep on inspiring!=)

gaiLie said...

wow!its nice to have an older brother talaga, sana meron din akong kuya.

i have little brother and i hope he would grow up to be a fine young man just like your kuya JC. God bless your family!

Jeniffer said...

buti ka poh may mga brOther aND sister.. nakakainggit yung ganun.. :( but still I'm happy for those who are lucky to have.. :) just like you..

kate said...

hi bianca! your bother is really lucky to have you.You`re really close and you love him talaga... i have a brother too. And were also as close as you and your brother in one way or another I can somewhat relate to n jc.I hope that soon you`ll find the real "man in your LIFE" this may seem as an over use word but really wish you`ll find real happiness in time wid someone you really deserve. Coz you deserved to have the best in life. and that`s what i wish for you this year.

agnes p. said...

a few days ago, nag away kami ng kuya ko.. i don't know if u still remember me but im the girl from USC, cebu.. kuya ko rin main man sa life ko..

pero sa nangyari a few days ago, sobrang sad ko. till now, d kami masyado nag uusap. we only talk pag umaalis na sya for work.. and that is, "una na ako" ... =(

reading ur post, naisip ko kung gano tayo ka lucky to have our brothers.. salamat bianca! u always make me realize something!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi biancs,

i like reading your blog. keep writing!

uknowulovemeXOXOgossipgirl said...

not that i'm being 'gossip girl' here... but how come u & ur bestfriend didn't end up together??? im jst really wondering cause he's really cute. & his girlfriend-- looks like u. mejo fairer complexion lng. u can just ignore my question but i'm sure ur a lil curious urself..

bianca said...

gossip girl, haha! hindi ba ang galing kapag may ma-meet kang lalaki pero talagang pang-best friends kayo? yan si pepel kasi, woman trapped in a man's body. hahahaha! no, just kidding. peace! yang si pepel at si pat, soulmates yan. :) they've been together since mga grade seven pa kami. that is "meant to be". :)

erica said...

hi! nice blog.. it made my day! thanks! can't help thinking of the "old days".. sana di na natatpos ang saya hehe, minsan gusto kong sumigaw na AYAW ko na.. but do i have a choice.. even though there are thorns on my way i have to move on.. even it hurting so deep I have to go on...sana may PAUSE lahat ng bagay.. sana may power ako to stop the time.. sana ngaun.. at this moment an angel will me and tell me..hush!!!

she said...

wow!! platonic friendship. :)

i likey. some of my friends kasi don't belive in one.. at lagi nila akong tinutukso sa aking guy bestfriend. hehe.

there are people na "meant-to-be-together", meron naman, "meant-to-be-best-friends lang".

i read your reply na pepel and pat been together since grade seven kayo? ang tagal na! congrats to them. :)

congrats sa wedding ng kuya mo. :)

God bless you! :)

Lucia said...

@gossip girl and bianca:

grade seven?! grabe, ang tagaaaaal na! ang galing galing! kala ko ang mga pinakamatagalna relasyon ay since high school. may grade seven pa pala! wooh. are they getting married soon? (:

Anonymous said...

if pepel's your boy best bud, who would your girl best friend be? :)

Anonymous said...

omg.. i never knew the guy from speak out, JC, is your brother.



He's good looking... hehhe!

chezka said...

whoa! ur truly a loving sister biancs! im glad that i cud now comments on ur blog!.. haha.. i've just made an acct. here just to be able to comment on ur post.. i really adore u... ΓΌ

irish_joy said...

hi! ahhhh.. nakakaiyak nga yang eksena na yan.. actually my dad is in california since i was 4, could you imagine that, i am now 24? 20 years na kame halos magkalayo at minsan minsan lang nagkikita. hay.. kaya everytime na uuwi sya for vacation at aalis na sya ulit, i was still like his little girl na umiiyak pag pasok nya ng airport. hay. well that's life. well, i guess u and ur brother jc are lucky with each other and as well with your best friend pepel. actually, tama ka, it's really amazing how a boy and a girl are just really meant to be good friends lang. galing no? sana naalala mo pa ung wish ko nung birthday ko... hehe baka lng.. well, wish u well and the best of everything. take care always and keep the faith biancs!

.acciemaj. said...

wow, you're lucky!! i wish i have a big bro :(

Anonymous said...

you're so lucky with your brother...wish i have one..=p

davamerce said...

Hello Miss Bianca!!!Ang saya-saya talaga nila...
Sana ikaw rin meron...para kasali ka doon sa napakatamis nilang usapan, gimikan, kuwentuhan at tawanan.

TAKE CARE ALWAYS!!!

kate said...

bianca i remember pala im your contact sa multiply mu ng help kids learn..i just want to let you know if ever this yr sa birthday mu you`ll be celebrating it with kids im willing to help you out just tell. i really want to be a part of your advocacy in helping this kids.

=) said...

i thot u're missing "toot". =) i heard you and lino we're in Singapore. i was really happy to hear that. but i'll be happier if you both will be together again. soon! =) take care.

Anonymous said...

goOd day biaNca=) its nice to hav a best buD and bro like what u hav... cutie pla ng bez mo n c pepel and both (jc & pepel) they hav goodlooking girlfriend=) u san n ung handsome prince mo?;b

.acciemaj. said...

hey bianca! what's the website of the s4s thing?! i'm just curious about it. thanks! have a mervelous day!

Anonymous said...

omg... u and lino should be just friends... damage has been done. you are better off as friends...im sure of that! =) God Bless!

Anonymous said...

yours is Y-speak, your brow is for SPEAK OUT,so cute! does it runs in the blood?!haha!=p

Ria Hazel said...

Ako din, namimiss ko na yung brother mo. :D

..I mean seeing him on TV or at Candymag. *crush*

And I wish him and his fiancee best wishes on may. :D

bernstein said...

hey bianx.. i've always wanted to have a communication with you, but just like what you've said you do not own any friendster or my space account, lucky i found your blog account.. so, till here.. take care always, keep up the good work okay!! GODBLESS..

Anonymous said...

your kuya JC is sooooo cute talaga!!! crush ko sya noon pa!! ur best friend pepel is also a cutie pie ha!! sana next blog entry mo for the month of feb (in time for valentines day) sana ipakilala mo na sa amin 'man in your life.' it's been quite a while na rin. excited na akong makilala sya.hehehe

i agree with anonymous, i have nothing against lino, but i guess it would be best na maging friends nalang kayo ;)

take care bianca! god bless you

GOOD LIFE OF ALEX said...

hi bianca! observation lang, look at pepel kahawig nya si lino.=)

since u love your family that much...
watch brothers and sisters u will surely enjoy it as much as i'm enjoying it right now!

Lorenz said...

ate biancs!
hello!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
you really live a charmed life! wishing you all the best this year and i hope there would be a new addition in the men of your life! haha... agree? i hope so! :D bye

MISS FRIENDLY said...

BIANCA, I'M ASKING YOU A FAVOR...

YOU WERE ABLE TO POST EARLIER THE MESSAGE OF "ANONYMOUS" WHEREIN HE/SHE SAID THAT "DAMAGE HAS BEEN DONE SO YOU AND LINO SHOULD BE BETTER OFF AS FRIENDS"....SO I JUST CORROBORATED HIS/HER STATEMENT AND LET OUT ALSO MY OWN OPINION.

SO BIANCA, PLEASE BE FAIR TO EVERYBODY!..MY POINT IS JUST THAT SINCE YOU OPTED TO POST ANONYMOUS' MESSAGE.. I DON'T SEE ANY REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT POST MINE TOO, DIBA?

JUST BE FAIR, BIANCA AND NO BIASES, PLEASE!..YUN LANG!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR UNDERSTANDING!

roxAnnE trIxiA said...

grabe bianx ha!! ang gwapo talaga ng kuya mo,. ng best friend mo rin.. super!! sayang lang kasi magkalayo kayo,. magkikita panaman kayo e! How I wish nandun ako sa wedding ng brother mo!! sa davao diba?? i know maganda ang gown ng bride kasi diba,. yung mom ni tracy yung nagtahi ng first gown na dinesign mo?? ganda nun,. promise!! kulay violet.. ang ganda ng post mo ate,. nakakainspire sa mga taong may tampo sa mga kuya nila.,


--posh16--

Anonymous said...

hi bianca! ive been reading for blog for quite sometime yet this is my first time to actually leave a comment. i dont know, maybe its because i know havin someone like you as a friend would be something next to impossible. im not even brave enough to attempt coz i dont know how to properly approach you without sounding like a stalker. dont worry. im not. =)
anyway, i finally decided to write coz i dunno. im hoping that writing to you will make me feel better. you see, ive always admired you. not only are you pretty but you're smart, talented and genuinely nice. very endearing. no wonder people like you.
i really wish i had a brother like yours. im an only child so i really had no one. having a sibling to share everythin with would've been great. oh well.

Anonymous said...

hmm i must say this miss bianca--- in the first picture where you had their name written?! your bestfriend's girlfriend is really pretty. and she actually looks like you and not only that.. your bestfriend looks like direk lino.- hhhm? does that made sense? ahihih-

peace

freyti said...

shocks!agree ako kay karen..cute nga ni bestfriend...hihi...HELLO PAPA PEPEL!I'm freyti..echos...

Anonymous said...

Hi Ms. Bianca! My name is anj!! I'm quite bored kaya nag blog hopping ako and im so glad at nakita ko ang blog mo. kaka-inspire naman ang mga blog entries mo, no wonder super like ka ng cousin ko. She was the one who introduced me to the other side of the cyberworld (celebrity forums, multiply, etc.,) Jurassic era pa ata ang knowledge ko sa internet.hehehehehe.

sobrang nakaka-touched naman ang post mo na ito..i hope the next time na may ganitong pic ka na ipopost eh kasama ka na sa picture with you special someone :)

and speaking of, last week i saw your interview re Singapore thing...I don't know how you feel when people misjudged you and say nasty things about you but siguro na immune ka na rin ano? siguro that's really part of showbiz ~ you can't please everybody nga naman basta ang importante happy ka at alam mong wala kang inaapakang tao..

My cousin texted me and asked me kung ano ang masasabi ko sa sinabi mo na hindi pa kayo ni lino, she asked me kung do I believe you? (my cousin has never been into a relationship and she knows rin na at one point in my life nalagay din ako sa situation na somewhat similar sa situation mo ~ not siguro exactly the same pero parang ganyan.hehehe) I told her, I believe you..I told her, kaw mas nakakakilala sa kanya kasi sinusubaybayan mo sya, ako taga kinig lang ng kwento mo..hehehehe..and I went on and told her, Just have "faith" in bianca that she will choose the right path for her happiness..that she knows how to protect her heart..i don't think any girl wanted to be the second best in a man's life and trust me, bianca, knows more than you guys what can make her happy..hindi nya hahayaan sarili nya na masaktan ulit :) and she replied with a smile/grin.

Bianca, I don't know you personally but based from my cozin's stories and based on the things that I've read (blogs, forums, etc.,) and seen on TV, I can say that you have a good head on your shoulders and you are a sweet, loving and caring person.

Super feeling close naman ako diba kung bigyan pa kita ng advice on love and relationship...but I kept an article forwarded by my best friend during the time na nagka-dilemma din ako..ehehehehe.

Second Chances

So you and your ex are debating getting back together again and you want to know if it’s worth giving your relationship a second chance. It is hard enough to offer an employee, a student, or a friend a second chance, but offering a lover a second chance is very tricky. The level of emotional detachment is completely different and you are opening yourself up to getting hurt again. On again-off again relationships are hell and nobody wants to sign up for the emotional dramas that accompany that sort of life. How do you decide when to grant someone a second chance and when to just cut your losses and walk away?

The first thing you need to look at is the overall quality of the relationship you originally had. This isn’t about whether or not you were in love with each other, but how well you got along together, how compatible were you, and how easy was it to just hang out in each others’ worlds. If it was always a struggle and a lot of effort to make the relationship work, then you really need to take some time and think things through. Why was it tough to get along? Are you from completely different worlds? Are your lifestyle preferences and needs completely different? Do your personalities clash? It’s true that all relationships involve a certain element of give and take with compromise being an essential ingredient towards longevity. However, you don’t want to commit yourself to something that feels like a chore.

If you had to work too hard to keep the relationship alive the first time you were together, then you need to look at the reasons for that. Are you both really stubborn? Are there drug or alcohol addictions in the way? Are third parties being allowed to interfere in the sanctity of your relationship? Is it one of those things that can be fixed, or is it something that really cannot be fixed? If one of you is a serious ‘nose to the grindstone’ type and the other is a ‘party animal’, then you may not be able to fix the differences between you. It’s not a matter of right and wrong, just being too different. The motivations behind the stresses in your first attempt at a relationship will tell you if these are personality differences or if they are behavioral differences. Did clashing needs or clashing preferences destroy your relationship? Needs cannot be changed very easily, if ever. Preferences are negotiable and can be compromised. Take a step back and really analyze the needs and preferences of each of you as individuals. Then look at the needs and preferences of the partnership. How much work is involved in making your two worlds blend into one?



If you have determined that the problems in the relationship are fixable and worth the time and energy involved in doing so, then you have to move on to the second aspect. You have to analyze the commitment you both have to making the changes needed to successfully make a life together. A huge piece of commitment is fidelity. Infidelity is more than just physically cheating with someone. It includes extreme flirting, sharing your most intimate feelings with someone else instead of your partner, and an overall lack of loyalty towards the relationship. If your partner allows others to speak poorly of you behind your back, then are you going to feel secure in the relationship? If they surround themselves with people who dislike you or who treat you badly, then will you ever really feel good about being involved with them? If they cheat on you or just flirt a lot with others, are you going to feel that they are really committed to you? Commitment can mean that they have to stay clean and sober or else they lose you for good. Commitment can mean that they have to actually take time out of their busy life to spend some quality time with you. Commitment can mean that you are both going to open your hearts in front of a counselor and do all you can to make the changes that needs to happen in order for your relationship to really work out for both of you. You have to analyze the level of commitment that each of you brings to the relationship.



If you are the person who wants to be given a second chance, then you too need to think through these questions. Can you really change to fit better within the needs of the relationship? Should you change? If the only way the relationship is going to make it is if you become a completely fake and unreal version of yourself, then are you ever going to feel that they love you unconditionally? You want to be loved for who you are, not for who they want you to become, right? Change should be in your best interest too.



If both of you have determined that yes the relationship is fixable and yes you are both fully committed to making the changes necessary, then a second chance could work out beautifully. I have known a number of happily married couples that tell tales of huge breakups that almost ended in divorce during the early years of their marriages. However, they were fully committed to fixing the problems and did so. Sometimes it takes losing someone to realize just how much they mean to us. I have also watched dear friends take someone back into their lives over and over again; only to have their heart shattered each time. No matter how much they loved the other person, they could not fix the relationship all by themselves and the other person kept on behaving the same old ways repeating the same old patterns. Without a real commitment to fixing and changing the problems, there is no way the second, third, fourth, or fifth chances are going to make the problems go away.

God bless you bianca! Best of luck on your career and PERSONAL LIFE! Where so ever you go, go with all your heart. Dun ka sa magpapasaya sayo! Take care always bianca!


*if you're wondering if me and my ex got back together?uhhmmm...he's now happily married and i'm engaged ;)

Anonymous said...

i think yung bestfriend mo looks like hero.. what do you think is better the black or silver ipod classic? hehe.. off topic..

bernstein said...

helo.. i just have a comment about your brother.. he looks familiar kasi eh, was he a reporter before or lumalabas siya sa tv talaga?

bernstein said...

i just wanna ask if how can i make my blog account more nicer, because i don't know how to costumize it.. i will be very happy if you will going to help me.. thanx in advance bianx.. send me and email please, or in my friendster account na lang.. here's my email add real_girl000@yahoo.com.. thank you so much.. love yah!!! :-)

Anonymous said...

i really don't understand why some people tell you that you and lino are better off as friends because "damage has been done." hello, they (or we) don't even know the whole story about you and lino. we don't know what really happened in the past. all we have is what media showed us and that is all. for all we know, agenda-setting theory ito. to say that you two shouldn't be back again "because the damage has been done" is not right. not at all.

Alex said...

hi bianca!

aawww...kainggit naman..i've always wanted an older brother (ako kasi pinakamatanda)! and your relationship with your brother is the kind of relationship i want to have with my older brother..well if i had one. hehehe!!


GOD BLESS!

The Yin said...

i miss my guy bestfriend. we don't hang out anymore because of his girlfriend. i envy you :(

Anonymous said...

judgmental as it may seem but i think my side is on anonymous, who wrote 'damage has been done..' To the anonymous who disagreed to anonymous. (ang gulo.. anonymous din ako) Anyway, there are instances when Exs are meant to be Exs.

Nice said...

aaawww... it really uplifts me to see sweet couples together. how i wish my mom and dad are like them!

nways, keep on inspiring people, biancs. you are doing a good job here on earth ;-)

Anonymous said...

Hi Bianca, u didn't post my comment but its ok i just want to say sorry for asking what happen about "him":)

LOVERBOY said...

UP KO LANG FOR BIANCA....AND ME!
"THE NEWEST KILIG LOVETEAM"!!
hehehe!!! gusto ko lang mangarap nang libre, Bianca!

the other woman said...

Ako lang ba yun or KAMUKHA TALAGA NI TRACY SI BIANCA SAW SA PICTURE?? wala lang. just curious.

aggie said...

Hi bianca,

Ang cute ng brow mo. Crush ko sya nung nakikita ko sya palagi sa TV. hehehe... Congratulations and best wishes to the couple. It's great to have that kind of relationship with your brother.

Cutie din bestfriend mo. Nice pics. =)