28 October 2007

i guess you really can't have it all..


the past days, ang dami dami kong narinig na iba't-ibang kwento.. ang sobrang dream ng isang tao, wala lang para sa isa pang tao. ang gustong bagay ng isang tao, problema naman para sa ibang tao. i find it so, so interesting and so i decided to share with you some of these stories.



"i wish i were filthy rich!"

a looot of people wish they were filthy rich. i have those moments where i wish i were filthy rich! who wouldn't want the resources to have anything and everything they want, right? super cliche ng "money can't buy happiness", but its true. i have a friend i would like to call "little miss rich girl". kwento niya na lahat daw ng kaibigan niya, lagi siyang niloloko na sa kanila na lang daw sana ang bahay niya, o damit niya, o mga bag niya, o mga gamit niya. she does feel very, very blessed to have all these things, but with the blessings come the struggles as well. dati, nag-try out daw siya para sa isang talent-based group. nung nakapasok siya, at nakita niya yung pangalan niya sa listahan, narinig niya yung bulung-bulungan ng ibang tao na bayad daw kaya siya nakapasok. "little miss rich girl" finds it hard to prove to people that she can do things on her own, without the power of money behind her, because she can do it, she really can.

i wish i were independent!"

i was blessed to have parents that were the right mix of strict and lenient. but i do have friends whose parents are so strict, that they feel suffocated, and wish so much for independence. para sa iba kasi, living with their parents come with so many house rules, mahirap na ang daming sasabihin ng mga magulang nila with every little decision, at pakiramdam nila, hindi nila magagawa ang gusto nila, kailan nila gusto. "miss mature" was so sure she wanted to move out of her family's house and live on her own. after her first few weeks of living independently, she felt she was living the life. going out on weekdays, no curfew, no having to ask permission to go out, no having to feel your every move is being watched. after a few months of living on her own, "miss mature" realized that a lot of other "no's" come with the set up. no instant clean sheets and warm food, no wake up call with a nice good morning kiss on the forehead from your mom, no access to absolutely every little piece of junk you've kept since childhood, plus add to that, bills, bills, and more bills. independence comes with great perks, but also comes with great responsibilities.

i wish i were famous!"

many filipinos are so fascinated with fame. whether it be famous in your village, in your class, in your whole batch, in your organization, famous among the boys, or just famous in general. "miss celebrity" enjoyed life in the spotlight. she liked dressing outrageously, just to be different from the rest. she loved it when people greeted her often, valued her opinion on certain issues, or even had her photo taken a lot wherever she goes. it meant a lot to her that a lot of people admired her, and a lot wanted to be like her. one day, "miss celebrity" had a bad day. she didn't feel like smiling, she just kept to herself, and she tried her best to stay strong at such a tough time in her life. so she's human. but then it hit her. so many people were in her face, giving too much meaning to every single word, action, and facial expression. making up false stories about her, passing false judgments, and name calling. that was when she felt she wanted to just blend in with the crowd. she wanted to just be able to breathe in her personal space.

isama mo na diyan ang ibang "i wish"..

..ang mga morenang nagpapaputi at mga tisay na nagpapa-tan.
..ang mga kulot na nagpaparebond, at mga straight-haired na nagpapa-perm.
..stick thin girls want to have curves, curvaceous girls want to be stick thin.
..desk job people want to be jetsetters, frequent travellers want to based in just one place.
..simpler folk want to live a fabulous life, social butterflies just sometimes want to live a simple life.

some say "be careful what you wish for".
others say "you always want what you can't have".
there's also the saying "you don't know what you got til its gone".
and of course how they say "make the most out of what you got".



putting all that together, it makes you think..
maybe.. even if you can't have it all..
sometimes, contentment and appreciation and thankfulness for the here and now will help make you feel that you do have it all.

94 comments:

Anonymous said...

nice posting here..
"careful what you wish for" ... i learned so much from this, suffered a couple of months and now i'll let destiny take my hand and prayers guide my journey thru life =D
u take care bianca, life is beautiful, you just have to learn how to deal with it. God bless you!

tin said...

wow. just..wow. your entry will surely hit a lot of people. Everything is so true.

Anyways, God Bless.

Anonymous said...

Wow.
A lot of people will surely agree with those.
Tatamaan ka talaga.

Anyways, GOd Bless.

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Anonymous said...

We really have to be contented with what we have or else we'll never be happy...

-seallet

Cara said...

Wow... that was a great post!! I loved it. In a way, it made me appreciate what I had and even what I didn't have... but there are still some things that I wish I could have. Like a little more money... haha. Moderation is key! =P

hazel said...

i couldn't agree more. :) and it really helps to count each and every blessing that you receive.

Kris Ablan said...

Man is insatiable, Bianca. That has always been our downfall.

Macho-payatot said...

Contentment is like reason. It makes people become fat in mind and body. Politicians and street gangs may do their bit to destroy the fabric of society, but to cause degeneration, there is nothing like contentment.

Show me somebody who is content, and I will show you somebody who is incapable of noticing his less fortunate fellow man. In fact, I am slowly beginning to discover that contentment describes the man who is resting on his laurels; the man who is proud of what he has achieved, and of how much he has earned, and maybe of how many jacuzzis he plans to install in each of his four houses.

Anonymous said...

=)...

Anonymous said...

i was checking your blog every so often ,because i was expecting you'd post something about mariel or the most recent. toni being the hausm8 hehehe...but enwei... i totally agree that we just have to learn to appreciate what we have.aside from the fact that we can't have evrything.it'll be so frustrating to ask for more.and enjoying the things we already have will be much less of a stress. hehe.. and if we come to think of it.. we are blessed in different ways. be it in material things, family, love life and what not.. bottom line is... just be thankful.. and everything will follow!

Faina Daguio said...

nice ate biancs, and ur ryt hndi lahat ng gusto ng tao nakukuha nya...Tanggapin nlang sana ng mga tao kung anong meron sila sa kanilang mga buhay! be contented on wat god given to us...love you so much! tccic..xoxo!mahalo!

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summer said...

hi, bianca

believe it or not..when i go surf the net everyday..i always check your blog...i always wish that you would do it a bit often but i know that you are busy. wala lang the way you write is just so good...meaning no need to put flowery words etc its just straight forward and really from the heart..in short nakakaaliw sya...whether the subject is something serious or light..napipicture ko tuloy how is it to be your friend..para tuloy gusto kong magtaong...hope you answer this one kahit di relevant dun sa blog mo! how do you know that a guy likes you na...aside from the usual things na ginagawa na magpapansin..just want to hear your insight...thanks and more power

gelatin said...

Everything in this entry is just so true. :)

Mi-Ann said...

agree. funny how people keep on wanting more and more not realizing they've already got what other people want to have. :)

mheemsical said...

ok, a really meaningful post. But what if the things that you wish for are the things that wil make you happy?

Anonymous said...

i could not agree more! napa-wow ako sa entry na toh! nice one bia. It's true talaga na most of the time nakakalimutan na nating ma-appreciate ang mga bagay na sobrang bless na tayo because we're too busy complaining and wishing for more things that we think we don't have. I believe that contentment is not the fulfillment of what we want, but the realization of how much we already have.

You've done a great job hosting Uber and PT kahit na nagso-solo ka. Take care always and God bless you!! Stay happy! Maraming nagmamahal sa'yo.

Anonymous said...

Its so true that we can't have everything we wish we had. God only gives us what we need and not what we want because He knows what is good for us. God even gives us more than what we had wished for. We must always be contented on what we have and make the most out of it.

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dhez said...

i totally agree with your post.i guess that being contented is a virtue.. we do sometimes wish, or hope for contentment, but the eagerness to reach more on things whether on material, power etc. never ends.it's not bad to reach on things you want or dreams that you want to be, it's just that we should ought to know that not all the things in this world can get it by just a snap of a finger.

Bianca, you already make a difference. your blog makes a difference on us readers. Keep it up girl! God Bless!

Anonymous said...

im sure everyone can relate on what you posted bianca. Lahat Hirap makuntento sa kung anong blessings ang natatanggap sa buhay dahil lagi nating kinukumpara ung kung anong meron tau at wala sa ibang tao.

hmm..im learning a lot from your blog entries.

sobrang saya ko nang makita ko ang link ng blog mo sa yahoo.

woohu..thanks for sharing!

So hapi dahil mababasa mo talaga to(:

u'll be blessed!

~~essa

Anonymous said...

hi bianca. thanks. right now, yun talaga ung kelangan kong i-realize. hehe! you see, i've always wanted to study abroad. when I was there, i studied so hard just to get to a school abroad. now that i am here for five months, sobrang lungkot pala. it's so sad that I'm starting to think, why the heck did i ever want this in the first place. it's really ironic how life plays with us. in the end, it all comes down to being contented in God's blessings. I'd always believe that God makes things happen for a purpose. Dba? sabi nga, things are more beautiful with a grateful and thankful heart. :D back to studying! i'm having my finals in a few weeks! hehe! cheerios! :)

kaRen_myxmatch said...

very very true... tnx for sharing those stories :) everything is human nature...

we cant have it all..If people have ALL their wishes come true, life will be sooo boring... no more challenge :)

freyti said...

awwww..very true lahat nung namention mo...siguro,ganyan lang talaga buhay!
basta ako,kontento na kung ano man meron ako pero......haha

Anonymous said...

Sabi be careful with what you wish for.

Anonymous said...

my only wish right now is to meet you... you are simply AWESOME

Aissa said...

Nice observation.. but to be realistic, contentment is almost non-existent..

Anonymous said...

thank you.

Henvironment said...

honest and real... dat's all i can say with your post. i hit me hard. disconted as i am, i did learn and realize things from your stories.
it's true how i ironic people can be to wish what you don't have while others wish for what yoou have.

JayE said...

hey bianca, nice post! thanks for all those nice thoughts! keep it up!

pls visit my blog, mynameisjaymeerey.blogspot.com, if u have time! thanks and God bless!!

Ria Hazel said...

hi bianca!

this is really an eye-opener. minsan kasi, a lot of people wish for things, not knowing what the consequences are. Minsan, may mga tao pang hindi makuntento on what they have.

tulad ko, i wished for a better job that the one im in today, a big company called me up but offered me a lower position that what i have now. People might say that I have passed my chance for a higher salary or something, but you see in my present company, i could write freely, i had my articles published and all.

So much for having a wish come true right?

Continue to inspire your readers po, i know they could all learn from you, like I did. :D

Anonymous said...

ive realized that long ago, and still, i find it hard to be satisfied with what i have right now. everyone is just human, i guess.:)

Anonymous said...

ganun naman ata talaga. human nature yun. you always wish for what you don't/can't have.

ganyan din ako minsan. cos being a bunso and unica hija, medyo strict and parents ko sa akin. i have absurd curfews sa edad kong ito. 22. hehe. pero i just try to enjoy life within my limitations. minsan naman, pinapayagan ako ng parents ko to go out and lumagpas sa curfew ko. i earned that privilege.

the Lord will bring contentment in your life, that's for sure. :)

Anonymous said...

oops. she here. i forgot to leave my name sa end ng comment ko. :)

God bless you bianca. :)

Anonymous said...

Hi BiaNca,

nice post! keep it up!

btw, ang saya, ikaw lang nakikita na host ng pbbce2! hehe!

ja^__^

-ChL said...

"careful what you wish for"...

this rings a bell...Nanny McPhee ikaw ba yan? lol

i love this post...thank you Bianca.

jassy said...

"putting all that together, it makes you think..
maybe.. even if you can't have it all..
sometimes, contentment and appreciation and thankfulness for the here and now will help make you feel that you do have it all."

I agree with you!

Marj021 said...

I heard of your blog from a close friend and i'm so thankful i did. Super fan ako back from the Candymag days. It's nice to hear such thoughts from a "now celeb" like you. I know it's a cliche reading "celeb" in the earlier sentence. Just take it as a compliment. You are one of them who upgrades the way people look up to celebs.

jham said...

hi bianca! nice blog! saw you at the atc last sunday.. you're with your sister..

clare said...

i'm currently having a dilemma related to your post.

i have papers to migrate to Canada.

almost everyone i know would jump at the chance. but me? i don't even want to go.

Sarrah Cope said...

nice one... can relate to that. i always wish something that im not and could not be.

0052019 said...

+1 here :)

LORD MANILA STONE said...

hi bianca, have you ever felt you wanted to just blend in with the crowd and leave the kind of fame you enjoy right now, i know some people write good and bad things about you, sad to say some are just plain rumours, by the way good luck to you on your career and here's wishing you some of the best in life, sad to say we can't everything we want^^

Anonymous said...

so true!

it's so hard to have CONTENTMENT in this kind of world.

Anonymous said...

Hello po Ate Bianca, Suppperr favorite ko po kita talaga. Sana we'll be friends.

God bless!
- Martha Clemente

-cy said...

"be careful careful wat u wish for coz u just might get it all"
fave line ko sa kantang "home" by chris daughtry. there's nothing bad of wishing more than what you have but make sure it would always do good and realize the "balance of nature" phenomenon..hehehe
hapi to be here with the super opinionated people in bianca's blogs :)gusto kta mging friend biancs sobra! -cy

Anonymous said...

Let me share this with you:

"CONTENTMENT is NOT always the fulfillment of what you WANT. It's the REALIZATION of how BLESSED you are for what you already HAVE"



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c0lleen said...

wow bianca.. i could totally relate.. :)

BB_ANNE said...

this super dooper true...that only shows we're human..never contented of what we have...always wanting for more..always on the look of something new and something different...

but it has some perks also..because we're not contented of the life that we have...we struggle to reach our goal...

chase said...

"CONTENTMENT...it's the death of DESIRE." heard this somewhere...well, its up to you if you agree with it or not. =)

by the way, grabe, i missed the first epi of the new season of heroes...asar noh! oh well, i guess i have to catch up na lang..just like what you're doing now..hehehe! =p

steph said...

the kwento sounds soooo familiar. hahaha. :) *wink* teehee.

Glecely said...

this entry is super nice it makes you think that we should be contented and thankful, I'll share my favorite qoute too!

"Success is getting what you want, Happiness is liking what you get."

iya said...

oprah said, "yes, you can have it all. but not all at once."

:)

AiDiSan said...

Hello Bianca,

I love this post. It will hit somebody with a lot of discontentment in life.
I guess it's normal for people to wish for something BUT let's take sometime to pray and thank God for what we already have 'coz...
Happiness is NOT finding what you don't have, it's enjoying what you already have. BOW!

God Bless!

alekxis said...

i've been reading your blog for some time now... thanks for the inspirational words....

Celine said...

great blog, Ate Bianca! it's so true. we should all be contented & thankful.
GoD bless!

DEBBiE said...

ei bianca. i oh so luv your blogspot : ) it makes me feel relaxed whenever i start reading it. it may sound corny but since the first time i saw ur blogs. it gave me an inspiration to make one too. aww Ü take care bianx Ü

Cheddar Almighty Loves JT said...

ang galing ate bianca!

naalala ko bigla yung saying na, "don't compare yourself with others--you are always better than someone and someone is always better than you"

haaay naku contentment talaga ang isa sa mga wishes ko! hehe :)

Katrina said...

bianca, you are an inspiration. :)

Anonymous said...

ala na ko ma-say sau! napangiti na lng ako eh! :) ang galing! sa lahat talaga ng celebrity blogs, sau ok balikan!

sama mo na yung wish na, sana naging bianca gonzalez din ako *smile*
oooppps, learn to be content hehe...

i wish all the best in all areas of ur life! GB!:)

Arwee/Arian said...

I wish I only had one chin. :)

Yun lang ang wish ko.

For now.

:)

Thanks for sharing your time with us.

God bless.

Julianne said...

Wow! I learned a lot from this post, really! HAHA. Next time, i'll be more carefully in what I wish for and be thankful for who I am and what I am. Thanks to you!

Shoo Bee said...

thanks for sharing this entry... it is all soooo true..... i like the last line a lot - true indeed being thankful, contented and appreciative of the here and now will truly help in making us feel we do have it all....and we will never live a miserable life.

thanks again for this wonderful entry...God bless.

irish_joy said...

contentment is such a dilemma for a lot of people. we always search for something we want to know, find something we want to gain and look for something which is sometimes can't be seen here.. but after our life here. i always tell my friends na, si God, He never give everything to one person, kasi madalas, baka ma-abuse. and one thing, kelangan naman nung taong un ung blessing kesa sayo, kasi kung wala sya nun eh paano na sya. medyo bad ako pag nasasabi ko to, pero i know, this is true. kaya hinde tayo dapat mainggit or mag desire ng wala satin. take it as a challenge for us to strive harder. just have enough confidence on oneself. contentment will be the hardest thing for anyone but it will be the greatest thing one could ever have... keep the faith bianca! continue shining and be a great example to everyone. keep smiling and may you keep us also smiling... :)

Anonymous said...

nice post!!,like it!,you're such a great blogger!!you don't have to wish for anything more!!,haha!=p

Anonymous said...

Hi Bianca! I'm a super avid viewer of PBB..watch it everyday! Just a 'constructive' comment...I noticed when you pronounce your words you tend to emphasize the last syllable too much (i.e. bryan-ah (instead of Bryan), Tony-ah (instead of Tony), Mariel-ah (instead of Mariel), One-ah Two-ah Three-ah Four-ah Five-ah (instead of one two three four five)...it's kind of distracting. Just a comment which may help you improve your hosting. More power! =)

Anonymous said...

hi bianca!:) just want you to know na mas bagay sayo pag hindi masyado matitingkad yung kulay ng makeup! pag mga pastels. i mean sharp na yung features mo, minsan natatabunan ng makeup instead na maenhance. :)

i'm such a fan, haha. you are the smartest among the three PBB girls. It just happens na sobrang confident si toni and mariel. hope your time to shine will come soon!:) kung fluency and correct grammar in english lang, you are way ahead. i also want to commend you for being well-mannered.

i know PBB caused a lot of intrigues in your life pero at least nakita naman ng tao na hindi ka masama. you may have fallen for someone inside the house pero people never accused you of being a backbiter or something. God bless Bianca!:)

Anonymous said...

hi bianca..i've been reading your blog since 2005 and this is the first time i had the guts to leave a comment..i really like you..you're soooo real..and all the things that you write in your blog makes sense..i really admire you..keep it up! :)

Liana said...

you can have it all. you just cant have it all at once- oprah.




i often visit your blog, bianca. it's worth reading.Ü

visit my own site,too, if you have the time:

liana2chinkee.blogspot.com

tnx!

lorEn said...

i've always thought about that thing also... nice blog.. dami ko natutunan from it. tenx for having time to share your experiences with people . ^^ godblessyoumore!

alekx said...

just want to ask what codes you used to prevent photo-stealers... thanks!

Anonymous said...

i have an account here in blogger i just can't log in. anyways, bianca i so enjoyed reading this long and very truthful blog of yours. yeah i do agree with you. you just pointed out the truth. there are people who really are not contented with what they have already. i even find it ill that people who have all the riches in world still asks for more when there are people who don't even experience the fruits the world could offer.

onlineako said...

sang ayon ako sayo..

Anonymous said...

u just keep on inspiring me :) ur a great person and i love you for that :) thank you bianca!!

anne said...

well-said bianca! =)

Anne said...

You're entry is so true. But then again, it's easy for you to say because you're famous, you're rich.. etc. Just a thought. I dunno though. :D

icy said...

Nice post Bianca....

Please dont get tired writing inspiring stories..

Your blog reflects your true personality not of being a celebrity.
Thanks for sharing and May God Bless You always.

Your such a gift Bianca.....Thank God!!!!


J.B.B.

Natalie said...

Yes, lots of people don't have contentment. That line 'be careful what you wish for'...is true. Baka magkatotoo at ayaw mo na. Walang bawian! That's scary!

Anonymous said...

thanks Bianca, you have made things clearer for me...especially these days that i have struggles and heartaches...made me forget, what i've been blessed with for awhile...keep on writing, you're truly a blessing too...take care and thanks again...
joy

Anonymous said...

totoo. you really cant have everything talaga bianca kasi if that would be the case, we won't be aiming for greater things na. things that, we and the people around us think its impossible for us to achieve. we wont strive harder to reach our dreams, to improve ourselves better. we won't be feeling that "inner drive" that motivates us to succeed more in our lives.

if we could have everything, what would be God's role in our lives? kasi sa lahat ng mga voids and empty spaces natin in our lives, only Him could fill that up. :)

bianca said...

anonymous, thank you for your comment! sorry, no truth to that.. and no, i'm not lying. :) sorry to disappoint in case anyone was hoping its true.

Anonymous said...

I do think we can have it all, just not at the same time.

Anonymous said...

hi bianca! this is mai and i have been reading ur blog before u were a celebrity.

can i ask u something? what can u say wen u have exerted all your efforts yet in the end wal apa rin?

Anonymous said...

hi bianca!! i just wanna say na super idol talaga kita at lalo kita naging idol after reading all your blogs!!! you're so witty!!! isa kang maipagmamalaki ng DLSZ and Ateneo (actually, Atenista din ako..) i soooo love you talaga!!! i mean you have everything na, you're beautiful inside and out, you're smart, everything!!! and i hope to see more of your amazing blos in the future!! God bless always!!!

-john29

Anonymous said...

i wish you were in SF
neighbs

Anonymous said...

kaya ibig sabihin kung ano ka ngayon mayaman man o mahrap etc.. ay nilaan ng Diyos yan para sayo in a reason na si God lang ang nakakaalam.. and youll hav 2 b thankfull of watever things you hav now.. tnx for letting us realize that bianca.

eunice. said...

what a beautiful post. talk about the paradox of life... it's a reality.

KC Cerrafon said...

hi puh... super inspirational ng mga posts nio... magpapaalam lang pu aku... i wanna share your inspirational thoughts to the world so I added a link to your blog in mine... dagdag hits... :)

keep rocking!!
God Bless

Kistiee said...

This is so beautiful. (:
Yes, I couldn't agree more.

God Bless. (:

Anonymous said...

thanks for this entry :)

Mara Angeline said...

great realization, especially on the last part which i totally agree with.

once i felt that i fell too short with my life because of the things that i can't have but once i counted my blessings... it amazed me to see that what i REALLY need i already have and my wants are just "imagined needs". From now on I wake up happier each day and more contented. Thanks for reminding us that oftentimes a simple "thank you,Lord" and being grateful for the things that we have are always the quickest solutions to our problems. :)

a victim of migration said...

amazing. idol talaga kita ate bianca! god bless ^.^

Anonymous said...

very well said!.. :) nakaka-relate ako., ^^